Is 50 quid ok for daughter's 21 prezzie?

[furball]

There's nothing wrong with giving money but just sticking it in a card and sending it off is quite impersonal.
You've obviously had a lot of difficulties and even on this forum you've made a few negative comments about your daughter. Maybe you should reflect on this and choose a well worded supportive message to put in the card so your daughter realises you are thinking about her.

 

[Sandra6]

To some people £50 won't seem much, to others it will be a small fortune and I don't think replies along the lines of Drago's are particularly helpful.
I think I got £20 in a card for my 21st.
In your circumstances I think £50 is very generous, perhaps a small keepsake like a birthstone would be nice to go along with it. You can get them for a few quid on line

 

[BoldonLad]

A gift is a gift, how much it cost is not relevant, IMHO.

Any decent person would not want to see you run yourself short, or, rubbish any gift IMHO.

Anyone who you would not regard as a "decent person", why would you want to give them a gift?

 

[irw]

To some people £50 won't seem much, to others it will be a small fortune and I don't think replies along the lines of Drago's are particularly helpful.
I think I got £20 in a card for my 21st.
In your circumstances I think £50 is very generous, perhaps a small keepsake like a birthstone would be nice to go along with it. You can get them for a few quid on line

+1.
On the cash vs 'something' point, personally, I hate it when people get me 'stuff' (E.g. 'I'll get IRW a book about bikes, because he likes them'- maybe so, but not enough to spend my time reading a book I didn't need and actually have no interest in). Holiday spending money is certainly something I'd prefer over something I didn't actually have a need for.

Nowadays, I'd much rather just receive a B&Q voucher, or cash or something that I can spend on the house for example. The only exception would be for something 'personal'- what about the cash, and a nice framed photo of you and your daughter? E.g. my mum has a photo of me and my brother when we were very little sitting on some rocks in Cornwall on the wall at home- when Mrs IRW and I went to the same place on holiday this year (probably about 25 years later), I made a point of finding the exact spot and taking a photo from the same angle. We then popped it in an inexpensive frame and gave it to her for Christmas. Last time I went round, I noticed it's now on the wall next to the other one, but in a different frame .

Is being 21 actually still significant nowadays? Pretty sure I did nothing special- certainly didn't get anything special as far as I can remember, and that was 10 years ago.

IRW

 

[alicat]

50 euros is a great idea, especially if you give it to her yourself if poss and tell her to treat herself to something on holiday.

Get a nice card as well and put in a message telling her what you appreciate about her.

 

[screenman]

Daughter #3 is 21 on 1st March. I've bought her a cherished number plate for her car, £600, and will give her 2 gees for a week in New York.

I think Accy did his climbing up a ladder to clean windows, not climbing up the promotion ladder.

Accy, give what you can afford, I think the stone a great idea.

 

[Accy cyclist]

To some people £50 won't seem much, to others it will be a small fortune and I don't think replies along the lines of Drago's are particularly helpful.
I think I got £20 in a card for my 21st.
In your circumstances I think £50 is very generous, perhaps a small keepsake like a birthstone would be nice to go along with it. You can get them for a few quid on line

I won't have time to buy such a thing. I'm out most of tomorrow,besides she goes away in the morning so....

 

[cyberknight]

Given your circumstances I think £50 is incredibly generous, maybe over generous. Last guy I saw while CA advising on Thursday was living on JSA and had his leccy off so he could eat.

Byegad's solution is an excellent idea. We got my Mother a silver sixpence from the year of her birth - 1926 - for her 90th. Perhaps something like that that she could still treasure in 20years time.

The value of any gift comes down to the personal circumstances of the giver. £50 is perfectly reasonable.

I bought both my kids a watch for their 21sts. Plenty of nice ones you can get for £50 and something she can keep.

To some people £50 won't seem much, to others it will be a small fortune and I don't think replies along the lines of Drago's are particularly helpful.
I think I got £20 in a card for my 21st.
In your circumstances I think £50 is very generous, perhaps a small keepsake like a birthstone would be nice to go along with it. You can get them for a few quid on line

I can only echo the sentiments above, assuming the daughter knows your circumstances any gift should be gratefully received.

I am 50 very soon , counting down the weeks and swmbo asked me what i want and i have been after a la vi claire jersey replica for a long time but at around £60 i would rather not as i would rather put clothes on the kids backs.

 

[Accy cyclist]

Is being 21 actually still significant nowadays?

That's how i see it. If it was significant to her(daughter)i don't think she'd be away from home for her birthday. I spent part of my 21st in the social club at the hospital i was working in at the time. Then i had a meal with my parents and my girlfriend at the time,before we all went off down the local pub.

 

[cyberknight]

That's how i see it. If it was significant to her(daughter)i don't think she'd be away from home for her birthday. I spent part of my 21st in the social club at the hospital i was working in at the time. Then i had a meal with my parents and my girlfriend at the time,before we all went off down the local pub.

I didnt do anything for my 21st , i cant remember why and my 40th my dad was in the last throws of terminal cancer

 

[Julia9054]

£50 is fine and a good idea to give it in Euros for her holiday.
We got our son a second hand iPad which he needed for work and went over to Manchester and took him and his brother out for a meal.

 

[Mrs M]

50 euros in a pretty card with a nice wee hand written message from you, would, I think, be a welcome gift.

 

[derrick]

Daughter #3 is 21 on 1st March. I've bought her a cherished number plate for her car, £600, and will give her 2 gees for a week in New York.

Just how it should be,

 

[Drago]

I'm sure whatever you can afford will be fine Accy. It really is the thought and the love it represents that counts.

Just how it should be,

Aye, I get some peace and quiet while she's away!

 

[oldwheels]

Seems reasonable to me but something small and personal that you have given some thought to in addition to the cash shows you have thought about it and not just nipped down to the cash machine.