Kestevan
Last of the Summer Winos
- Location
- Holmfirth.
As some of you may know, my mums not been exactly well for the last few months. A bad slip on ice was followed by a major haemorage,stroke, cancer and Alzheimers - she was going for the full set, but missed out on a heart attack and died peacefully of pneumonia early on Tuesday morning.
I've got two kids who were reasonably close to their Grandma. The eldest is coming to the funeral, but I'm still undecided about Kaleb. He's only 4 and doesn't really know what death means yet. We're debating whether or not to bring him to the funeral (cremation). Both his mother and I think it should be up to him, although I do have reservations. My Dad's not so sure, he's worried the whole thing will be too much for the lad.....
Other family members are horrified about the thought of taking such a small child.....Now normally this wouldn't unduly worry me, I've spent large parts of my life horrifying various sections of my family and enjoyed every minute of it. But at the end of the day I don't want to cause my son undue distress.. but then again I do want to give him the chance to say goodbye.
Any thoughts on what I should do?
I've got two kids who were reasonably close to their Grandma. The eldest is coming to the funeral, but I'm still undecided about Kaleb. He's only 4 and doesn't really know what death means yet. We're debating whether or not to bring him to the funeral (cremation). Both his mother and I think it should be up to him, although I do have reservations. My Dad's not so sure, he's worried the whole thing will be too much for the lad.....
Other family members are horrified about the thought of taking such a small child.....Now normally this wouldn't unduly worry me, I've spent large parts of my life horrifying various sections of my family and enjoyed every minute of it. But at the end of the day I don't want to cause my son undue distress.. but then again I do want to give him the chance to say goodbye.
Any thoughts on what I should do?