Lets sort things out

[oldfatfool]

The problem is Mathew you are too immature and naive. Please don't take this as an insult it isn't, just an observation. So many of your posts are made without stepping back and thinking about what you have written and how you have left yourself wide open to if not ridicule then criticism without leaving yourself any wriggle room (ie you take a black and white stance when you are patently wrong) Everyone does it, but unfortunately maybe not quite as often.

I personally can argue black is white 'till the cows come home if the mood takes me but I will usually battle from a basis of sound fact and reason even if its only sound in my mind the thing is you have to know when you are right and wrong even if you are arguing the opposite for the shear devilry, again unfortunately I don't think you do.

Any way the key is not to let it bother you, it is like a newspaper come tomorrow it will be being used to pick up dog shoot in the back garden ( I would have said as a chip wrapper but due to H&S regs old newsprint can no longer be used to wrap food)

 

[Matthew_T]

My ignorance to what people comment actually mean is probably down to me being Autistic. I seem to want everything MY WAY which I know wont happen, but I am too ignorant to remember it.

So many people I know are "proud of what I have overcome" and yet I have obviously not overcome as much as I need to.

I am amazed that someone thinks I am 'immature' as I am normally the one to critisize other people about immaturity. E.g. I have recently turned down my college peers on the offer of an 'End of Year night out' because I thought that they were too immature for me and I wouldnt enjoy the night.

I prefer my own company and as I am sitting on my bed writing this, I am enjoying the peace (I can still hear everyone in the house) and ability to do what I want.

The problem that I have is that I am very thick skinned with regards to direct insults (bullied at school a lot) but as I have grown up, the insults I have got have been more intellectual and as a result of that, it has made things difficult for me to grasp. I certainly dont expect to be bullied by people who are 3 or 4 times my age and should know better.

 

[Becs]

So many people I know are "proud of what I have overcome" and yet I have obviously not overcome as much as I need to.

If you are proud of how you interact with people in the real world (I'm talking generally, rather than purely on the road) then I would ignore what people are saying in "commuting". IME much bile is spewed forth in this subforum!

 

[Pauluk]

There you go Matthew, you've just raised an issue. This is the internet as as already been said. We don't really know you personally as the individual that you are so people may tend to respond to you as if they were talking to someone just like themselves rather than the Matthew that you and your friends know.

I made a joke out of someone's ridiculous comment the other day but then afterwards thought, well was that person actually a child and did I go over the top to make fun of what they had said. Other people liked my post but was it fair, I don't know.

As people have said, don't take it too much to heart, focus on the good stuff you get from being a member on here.

 

[wiggydiggy]

I cant help but feel your videos would be improved if you rode this bike:

 

[Peteaud]

I cant help but feel your videos would be improved if you rode this bike:

The new Trek People mover edition, Like it

 

[gaz]

[QUOTE 1880465, member: 45"]Don't take it personally mate. Anyone who puts up a vid on here runs the gauntlet of the armchair critics. It's one of the reasons I don't any more, and others have left because of it.[/quote]
As Paul said, don't take it personally.

Look at anyone else that has posted videos here and you will see they get similar treatment from similar characters.
Some will always think they are a better cyclist than you, that they know more etc.. and they can obviously see everything on the video coming. Cycling in the real world is different, you miss things and you make mistakes, the difference is you can learn from yours much easier than they can from theirs.

 

[SportMonkey]

As Paul said, don't take it personally.

Look at anyone else that has posted videos here and you will see they get similar treatment from similar characters.
Some will always think they are a better cyclist than you, that they know more etc.. and they can obviously see everything on the video coming. Cycling in the real world is different, you miss things and you make mistakes, the difference is you can learn from yours much easier than they can from theirs.

That's terribly insensitive to say to someone with autism, people with autism struggle to learn from their mistakes due to it breaking repetitive behaviour.

 

[PaulSB]

numbnuts said:
Why I said small claims court, that on Friday 8th June a woman is taking me to court and suing me for £1344.11 we reversed into each other, but she is stating that she was not moving at the time, both the insurance company’s called it 50/50, but she wants her day in court, if she wins the day I have no money to pay her as I'm on disabled benefit.

You responded with:

"If she wants something then give her a nuckle-sandwich, at least then she would be getting something from you which is deserved."

I've been very vaguely aware of your posts, you're the guy from the Rhyl area with a camera? I read the one above a few days ago - for me that's your problem. Can you justify punching anyone let alone a woman?

The post above leaves me with the view I'd best disregard your posts. It's like a long standing member on here who in a post advocated criminal damage to a vehicle - I couldn't take anything he posted seriously after that.

The other problem you may be encountering is the overall attitude in Commuting. I pop in occasionally to see if there is something of interest to me but this is rare now. I've been a commuter for 11 months and in that time have taken more interest in this section. What I notice is there seems to be an almost aggressive attitude in Commuting which is absent from the rest of the MB. This attitude seems to have increased somewhat over the past year.

While I don't want to get into the camera debate I think their growing use is fuelling some views and creating a culture I've not encountered elsewhere in cycling.

My advice would be to take part in the other very different and very enjoyable sub-forums.

 

[GetAGrip]

You responded with:

"If she wants something then give her a nuckle-sandwich, at least then she would be getting something from you which is deserved."

I've been very vaguely aware of your posts, you're the guy from the Rhyl area with a camera? I read the one above a few days ago - for me that's your problem. Can you justify punching anyone let alone a woman?

The post above leaves me with the view I'd best disregard your posts. It's like a long standing member on here who in a post advocated criminal damage to a vehicle - I couldn't take anything he posted seriously after that.

The other problem you may be encountering is the overall attitude in Commuting. I pop in occasionally to see if there is something of interest to me but this is rare now. I've been a commuter for 11 months and in that time have taken more interest in this section. What I notice is there seems to be an almost aggressive attitude in Commuting which is absent from the rest of the MB. This attitude seems to have increased somewhat over the past year.

While I don't want to get into the camera debate I think their growing use is fuelling some views and creating a culture I've not encountered elsewhere in cycling.

My advice would be to take part in the other very different and very enjoyable sub-forums.

Matthew, I am not talking about you specifically and you may feel you want to correct what I say and that is fine.
I think this is what is different about having a 'faceless' conversation online. Matthew has to judge how to take what each of us say by the written word only. There are no facial expressions or tone of voice for clues as to whether what we have said needs to be taken seriously. He takes the use of smilies as a clue for this, hence the earlier confusion.
Matthew, a lot of members get confused by what was really meant when reading replies, I know I do!
As regards some comments you may see from Matthew where the use of knuckles or whatever are involved, I suspect he is trying to emulate the 'jokey' tone he has picked up on from others.
Matthew, this is, on the whole, a family friendly forum for those who like to cycle. You have been a very active member on this forum and you should continue to do so. If you don't understand something someone says - ask what they mean. Doing this may help us to understand as well.
I may have got this totally wrong and I'm sure that if I have, you or someone else will very quickly tell me so.

 

[summerdays]

Matthew you are fairly young (picked up from some of the things you post about/mention), you will make mistakes - as we all do, but hopefully we learn something from the mistake and don't repeat it for a while (till we forget it again!!!).

I think your attitude has come across as being fairly black/white and now you have said about being on the autistic spectrum it sheds a new light on those previous threads (a friend has an autistic teenage son who has lots of problems trying to pick up clues about what others are feeling and also has problems at school including bullying). Try to assume that most people are friendly and if you have problems with any particular individual seeming aggressive or trying to wind you up then put them on your ignore list. Sometimes you can change the way a situation develops by your reaction to it - I smile a lot at drivers normally (I have my bad days), but I'm sure it helps to deflate some of the situations - or instantly apologising when I make a mistake. Equally I find if the motorist instantly apologies then the moment is soon forgotten.

 

[BentMikey]

I must admit I'm occasionally discouraged by the nasty and bottom feeding posts that are sometimes put on here. I don't think some of this behaviour is acceptable either, and it's the main reason I'm spending less and less time on CC. It's not a nice and friendly forum, sadly.

 

[Hip Priest]

It is like any forum. There is niceness and there is nastiness. I fell victim to few 'forum elders' in cake stop recently. Thankfully I'm a bit older and uglier than Matt, so I took it on the chin and buggered off for a few weeks.

Matt, I'm very sorry if anything I've posted has upset you. The revelation that you're on thd spectrum does help shine a light ona few things. Don't be discouraged from posting, but do take some of the advice on board.

 

[Matthew_T]

Matt, I'm very sorry if anything I've posted has upset you. The revelation that you're on thd spectrum does help shine a light ona few things. Don't be discouraged from posting, but do take some of the advice on board.

The problem is that I often take pretty much everything which is thrown at me on board. Some say that is good, some say bad, but I often think that lots of advice is better than no advice.
I remember when I first joined CC, I started a lot of threads relating to my bike and riding styles. I didnt get any abuse or insulting comments at all, I actually got sound advice from people who made my stay feel welcome. Unfortunately, as some members on here have become familiar with my posts, they have seen the need to be obnoxious and question why I am posting things. Isnt it obvious? I am looking for the same outcome that I was when I first joined CC, advice!

 

[Herzog]

Unfortunately, as some members on here have become familiar with my posts, they have seen the need to be obnoxious and question why I am posting things. Isnt it obvious? I am looking for the same outcome that I was when I first joined CC, advice!

In any forum there are 'problem' members (i.e., people with axes to grind against the world) who seem to want to patronize, put-down etc. It's best to block them as they tend to disappear/get banned for being idiots sooner rather than later.

If you feel a reply to your thread has over stepped the mark (highly subjective) report it to the Mods and let them be the judge.