Living alone

[vickster]

I'm single and live alone but not through choice.

The ex and I split up because basically I was horrible.
I don't think it would be fair to inflict myself on another lady so that's me done really. Any ladies I am interested in (very few because I am so fussy it's beyond belief) are already spoken for.

On the upside I can have a fried egg sarnie at 2am while watching crappy late night films in my skidders sat amongst a sea of motorcycle bits. Told you I was horrible.

You could choose and try to be less horrible

 

[Herbie]

Yes indeed. As a former Qualified Nurse, I spent 16 years out of my 19 year career, on night shift due to my young family at the time.
I never want to see another night shift again!

I did 16 years of shifts and lots of 12 hour nightshifts....not great for your health...i'm glad I changed Career and don't do nights anymore

 

[Crackle]

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Nice motorhome

 

[Pale Rider]

Nice motorhome

Thanks.

 

[BigonaBianchi]

This business of not being able to do stuff yourself etc..

seems to me that one reason for living in partnership is to make life easier on each other, by having each partner do the things they are best at, hence blokes get to doss on the sofa drinking beer while the ladies do all the work...erm...nah...surely not chaps eh?....anyway...what is th epont in being so 100% competent at everything that there is no real need for a partner other than to continue the human race?

There's nothing wrong in letting the other half do the stuff you cant and vice versa...speaking as a guy there is nothing worse than being with a woman who insists on doing everything herself, then telling you you dont do anything...erm...and before I get accused of being a sexist pig that works the other way around as well.

I think in life we operate as a partnership because it is more effective than working as individuals.

The problem comes because often one side is more dominant than the other...and in extreme cases totally so. The submissive half then loses the dominant and then they have an issue.

I'm probably a dominant these days because I know how to use a washing up brush and a hoover.

 

[London Female]

"I think in life we operate as a partnership because it is more effective than working as individuals."



Or because sharing is always much nicer.

 

[BigonaBianchi]

absolutly..unless it's the last rolo

 

[London Female]

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absolutly..unless it's the last rolo

You're welcome to it, I've already licked it though

 

[BigonaBianchi]

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You're welcome to it, I've already licked it though

..so cruel

 

[theclaud]

This business of not being able to do stuff yourself etc..

seems to me that one reason for living in partnership is to make life easier on each other, by having each partner do the things they are best at, hence blokes get to doss on the sofa drinking beer while the ladies do all the work...erm...nah...surely not chaps eh?....anyway...what is th epont in being so 100% competent at everything that there is no real need for a partner other than to continue the human race?

There's nothing wrong in letting the other half do the stuff you cant and vice versa...speaking as a guy there is nothing worse than being with a woman who insists on doing everything herself, then telling you you dont do anything...erm...and before I get accused of being a sexist pig that works the other way around as well.

I think in life we operate as a partnership because it is more effective than working as individuals.

The problem comes because often one side is more dominant than the other...and in extreme cases totally so. The submissive half then loses the dominant and then they have an issue.

I'm probably a dominant these days because I know how to use a washing up brush and a hoover.

Sazaa's criticism of Reiver's particular domestic arrangements was entirely unwarranted, but the larger point is that the division of domestic labour remains unequal - in terms of onerousness, tedium, remuneration, status and choice. How do you imagine it gets to the point where men imagine that they are simply not cut out for basic tasks, whereas women are miraculously good at everything that men can't be arsed to do? Clue - it has bugger all to do with abilities, and everything to do with the social and cultural norms and expectations, which are reinforced every time someone talks some utter bollocks about how he just can't multi-task or his wife won't allow him near the washing machine.

 

[ColinJ]

Clue - it has bugger all to do with abilities, and everything to do with the social and cultural norms and expectations, which are reinforced every time someone talks some utter bollocks about how he just can't multi-task or his wife won't allow him near the washing machine.

It doesn't just work one way though ... I know intelligent women who consider themselves feminists, but who still habitually switch into 'little-girl-lost' mode when they want something from men. I assume that it must work or they wouldn't do it, but it infuriates me - it belittles them, and the men that they do it to!

I will replace the starter for the fluorescent light in the kitchen, because I am tall enough to reach it safely from the step-ladder, not because I am "clever and know about electrical things". FFS - how clever do you have to be to twist the old one and pull it out, then push the new one in and twist it back the other way?

 

[snorri]

Sharing rolos? Have I stumbled into a love-in?I

 

[Tyke]

I left home 27 years ago to live with a woman, then another woman, then another and so on...............if I could have kept the same looks then I'd have liked a different woman each year. I've never been alone, apart from cycle touring and those weeks are when I am at my happiest. I worry about the future, I have very itchy feet & Mrs F doesn't.

A good friend the same age, 50, has been divorced for ten years and is depressed by loneliness, I am sure we both covet each others lifestyle.

Your friend should be looking at what depresses him and what he can do about it. You should be looking at what you are going to do if Mrs F reads this.

 

[MarkF]

Your friend should be looking at what depresses him and what he can do about it. You should be looking at what you are going to do if Mrs F reads this.

I do talk to MrsF you know and am working on making her feet itchy. My friends knows what depresses him, his wife walked out for another man 10 years ago, he had a step-daughter (from a baby). He spends his free time reminiscing. He has no partner, no child (step child filled that gap) and believes he's "missed the boat", he hates being alone but he simply can't move on.

 

[sazzaa]

but he simply can't move on.

You mean "won't". People can do anything they want to do, if someone wants to move on then they will move on.