Living alone

[ColinJ]

Have I bullied anyone? Really? Pretty sure admin would be deleting my posts if I had?

I've posted a few things on that depression thread... Just sayin...

Which makes your 'Depression? Just get a grip on yourself and snap out of it!'-like posts in this thread all the more disappointing ...

 

[sazzaa]

Which makes your 'Depression? Just get a grip on yourself and snap out of it!'-like posts in this thread all the more disappointing ...

Woah there, I haven't said that at all. In this thread I've suggested that the brain doesn't operate on a "can't" policy. I said it takes effort. But there has to be a want for change, always. I have every sympathy for people suffering mental illness.

 

[coffeejo]

Words, whether spoken or written, can be far more damaging than many people realise.

 

[vickster]

Yeah that's how I feel about it. People who get upset over words probably need to wise up a bit or step back from the internet, but that's my own personal opinion, and it's how I feel about words on a random website. My daughter has been raised to think the same way on the subject... If we teach our kids that words on a web page are not the end of the world then maybe there would be less "cyber-bully" suicides.

That's all very well for you, but you can't assume that everyone thinks the same way, has been brought up the same way or can deal with the words on the screen like that. Kids especially are under immense pressure to conform and that means using the Internet like their mates.

 

[sazzaa]

Would you call yourself a reductionist @sazzaa?

I learned about reductionism while studying psychology, and actually thought it was a helpful tool in dealing with my own battles. I wouldn't consider myself a "reductionist" though simply because I don't approach every subject in that manner. I'm a black and white person yes, a reductionist, no.

 

[sazzaa]

That's all very well for you, but you can't assume that everyone thinks the same way, has been brought up the same way or can deal with the words on the screen like that. Kids especially are under immense pressure to conform and that means using the Internet like their mates.

I realise this! Which is why I've made that point that it's my own personal feelings on the matter. And that people can simply use the ignore/block function if they find me offensive. Not sure why I'm defending myself to be honest, as I haven't bullied anyone and should be free to give an opinion on a subject.

 

[vickster]

You studied psychology...did it not teach you that people think in different ways and perhaps you may need to modify your approach to reflect this?!!

 

[vickster]

I realise this! Which is why I've made that point that it's my own personal feelings on the matter. And that people can simply use the ignore/block function if they find me offensive. Not sure why I'm defending myself to be honest, as I haven't bullied anyone and should be free to give an opinion on a subject.

You haven't but you were pretty harsh earlier in the thread as others said! You passed judgement on a situation that you know very little about in what came across in a pretty tactless way

And that's my personal opinion of the matter

 

[MontyVeda]

the best thing about living alone is having cheesy chips with bacon bits for tea, without being moaned at for eating an occasional meal that doesn't involve a side salad.
the best thing about living alone is being able to buy white bread without being moaned at because white bread is apparently bad for me.
the best thing about living alone is not having to listen to a CD by the feckin Lightning Seeds or Texas... or Dido... ever!
the best thing about living alone is not being woken up at 2am because a spider has been spotted on the other side of the bedroom and needs evicting immediately.

...four thoughts that quickly turn any feelings of loneliness into solace

 

[sazzaa]

You studied psychology...did it not teach you that people think in different ways and perhaps you may need to modify your approach to reflect this?!!

Psychology is a science degree, it mostly talks about emotional subjects in terms of science, surprisingly! I'm not a psychologist though, so won't be modifying my approach to life I'm afraid.

 

[sazzaa]

It's just that your definition of emotion as

is a pretty good definition of reductionism. You might find that useful, but many other people would find it very unhelpful indeed. If you've studied psychology you'll know that one rule does not fit all, and we should all try and take other people's feelings into account. Your posts don't often make it clear that you are only talking about yourself.

That wasn't technically my definition of emotion, it was more a resposnse to the use of the word "can't". You CAN change how your neurons behave in your brain, the brain is a bloody amazing thing in that regard.

 

[sazzaa]

I'll go and tell my friend with Tourette's that then shall I? Where did you do your degree?

Why are you getting wound up?

 

[Hill Wimp]

It doesn't just work one way though ... I know intelligent women who consider themselves feminists, but who still habitually switch into 'little-girl-lost' mode when they want something from men. I assume that it must work or they wouldn't do it, but it infuriates me - it belittles them, and the men that they do it to!



As a woman in quite a male dominated work place this drives me mad. Over the years i have seen various women repeat this scenario time and time again but i have never ever seen one come unstuck and that is just as bad.

 

[sazzaa]

It's my naughty neurons I expect

Don't take anything I say personally. You don't know me, my opinion really isn't that important to you. Chill out.

 

[vernon]

Psychology is a science degree, it mostly talks about emotional subjects in terms of science, surprisingly! I'm not a psychologist though, so won't be modifying my approach to life I'm afraid.

You appear to know yourself a lot better than you know how people perceive you.

Just saying....