Living alone

[sazzaa]

You appear to know yourself a lot better than you know how people perceive you.

Just saying....

I've been this way for many, many years, I'm quite aware of people's reactions. They generally get used to it.

 

[ColinJ]

@Hill Wimp - you need to cut and paste your words to move them outside the block of text you are quoting!

(If not, I would just like to point out that I have not had gender modification surgery!)

 

[vickster]

(If not, I would just like to point out that I have not had gender modification surgery!)

As I was reading, I kind of expected a 'yet' at the end of that bit in brackets...no idea why

 

[Hill Wimp]

@Hill Wimp - you need to cut and paste your words to move them outside the block of text you are quoting!

(If not, I would just like to point out that I have not had gender modification surgery!)

 

[deptfordmarmoset]

I'm sure I'd find that discussing things with ''randoms'' would debase the level of communication. And even behind a screen name, everything we write stands as an utterance of ourselves so there's no way we can honestly ''randomise'' what we say.

And the good will shown in so many of the threads, be it helping out with technical advice, giving people heads up on bargains, organising social rides, discussing personal issues such as depression, show that forums like CC really aren't just an aggregate of randoms.

 

[s7ephanie]

Yes, why not? That "waiting to die" sounded really sad, my mum is 75, my father died 5 years ago, she has a good social life, she made effort to find one once on her own. Painting, walking groups, cycling (still hasn't given back the folder she "borrowed" for a day in August) and does a days charity work weekly. She's "busy" and really enjoying herself.

Can't you move to somewhere you don't hate being???

If i could afford it, i'd be out of here in a flash !! I don't even own this house, its my son and daughter in laws house they bought it for me ( i lost most of my money when my ex left, long story not fo here!!)

 

[Archie_tect]

The way people live isn't always a result of personal choice but when it is, as a result of someone's inability to react and change their personal circumstances, it makes for uncomfortable reading when someone as forthright as sazzaa points it out. As a result it distracts the thread of comments from the original discussion because people then take offence at being told things bluntly without consideration of emotional response.

What I feel uncomfortable about on this thread is the way that an opinion honestly expressed isn't respected when it is given.

Living alone is a choice that can be changed [but not always for the better]; being lonely isn't- it takes interaction and a willingness to trust, which, after a series of attempts, can be damaged.

 

[coffeejo]

What I feel uncomfortable about on this thread is the way that an opinion honestly expressed isn't respected when it is given.

I don't think it was the opinion so much as the insensitive manner in which it was expressed.

 

[Archie_tect]

That's more to do with the reader's reaction though Jo, rather than the honesty of the opinion. We are all different!

 

[Hill Wimp]

The way people live isn't always a result of personal choice but when it is, as a result of someone's inability to react and change their personal circumstances, it makes for uncomfortable reading when someone as forthright as sazzaa points it out. As a result it distracts the thread of comments from the original discussion because people then take offence at being told things bluntly without consideration of emotional response.

What I feel uncomfortable about on this thread is the way that an opinion honestly expressed isn't respected when it is given.

Living alone is a choice that can be changed [but not always for the better]; being lonely isn't- it takes interaction and a willingness to trust, which, after a series of attempts, can be damaged.

Very valid point Archie.

 

[coffeejo]

That's more to do with the reader's reaction though Jo, rather than the honesty of the opinion. We are all different!

And the discussion was whether one should choose one's words to show respect for others or to suit oneself.

 

[Crackle]

@#$% no°
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I thought it was you.

 

[vernon]

I've been this way for many, many years, I'm quite aware of people's reactions. They generally get used to it.

But they shouldn't have to.

 

[sazzaa]

But they shouldn't have to.

What? I can't be myself? It's an open forum, and like real life, if you don't like what someone has to say then ignore it. I'm not censoring myself and I shouldn't have to. Free speech is allowed in this country I'm afriad, if you don't like it then tough. Feel free to hit the ignore button at any time, I won't take it personally.

 

[MontyVeda]

the worst thing about living alone is not having anyone to share the bills with.