Living alone

[ColinJ]

I wonder how many of us like that were only childs: Me to some extent. A much older sister.

That's an interesting point!

I have two sisters, but they shared a room, had their own friends and did what I considered girly things like babysitting for neighbours, doing each others hair, or learning elaborate dance routines, while I did manly things like climbing up big trees, getting too scared to come back down, and crying for my mum!

So, in some ways, I did feel a bit like an only child. I have had my own room since 3 months of age so I never got used to sleeping in the same room as someone else. I have to be pretty tired or drunk not to be woken up by the slightest noise or movement.

 

[deptfordmarmoset]

In my case, the middle one between two brothers, the bike was pretty much a temporary flight from the family and an outlet for excess energy. Apart from the odd game for the 3rd rugby team, I stuck pretty much well away from organised team games - I hated the ethos that went with the school sports of the day.

 

[Hill Wimp]

I am an only child and have always had a big group of friends. When i was growing up we had a large extended family with lots of cousins living nearby so i have never really considered myself alone.As a family we socialised a lot but I suppose i was bought up to be independent which has caused issues with boyfriends in the past but it prepared me well for what has so far happened in my life.

Today whilst out on my bike my left knee went ping. I struggled home and have my feet up on the sofa. It's times like this when i wish i could magic up maybe Fabian Cancellara to get me a cup of tea and feel sorry for me. I promise to send him home in the morning

 

[sazzaa]

Yes sazzaa it certainly is, have you ever met people that like doing things for others.

Yes. But liking doing things for others to the extent that they are completely dependant on you because they have gone through adult life learning nothing about how to look after themselves is plain weird. What happens when she's not there anymore?

 

[Hill Wimp]

Yes. But liking doing things for others to the extent that they are completely dependant on you because they have gone through adult life learning nothing about how to look after themselves is plain weird. What happens when she's not there anymore?

Couples do what works for them and that should be respected. We all have different family set ups and reasons why we do different things for different people.

 

[MontyVeda]

Yes. But liking doing things for others to the extent that they are completely dependant on you because they have gone through adult life learning nothing about how to look after themselves is plain weird. What happens when she's not there anymore?

it's weird, yes... probably because the reality is not as you imagine.

My folks have the normal breadwinner/housekeeper set up. Dad worked to buy the house, mum cleans it. Dad worked to buy the washing machine, mum washes his smalls in it. Dad worked all day or all night to put food in the pantry, mum makes his tea and packed lunch... but one doesn't need to be Einstein to work out how a washing machine works, how to push an iron, how to roast a chicken, boil potatoes, locate, plug in and push a vacuum cleaner around the house because it's not exactly rocking horse science.

 

[Shortmember]

I have lived alone since 1973 after I tried marriage and discovered I was crap at it -especially the bonking bit. I love the freedom to be a total slob at home and have no one around to nag me about it.I also love the freedom I have to play bedroom games with any consenting woman who's hard up enough to fancy my podgy, raddled 65 year old body, without feeling guilty that I'm being unfaithful to a long term partner.

 

[Hill Wimp]

I like many, love being alone. Its being lonely that sucks.

True, there is a very big difference between being alone and being lonely.

 

[numbnuts]

I wonder how many of us like that were only childs: Me to some extent. A much older sister.

I have a sister that is 3 years older then me

 

[vernon]

And the fact that some people (mostly male it seems) are proud of not possessing that skill strikes me as very peculiar, and nothing at all to boast about.

I can't operate the TV/DVD set up via the remote controls and I'm not ashamed to admit it.

 

[ShipHill]

I'm single and live alone but not through choice.

The ex and I split up because basically I was horrible.
I don't think it would be fair to inflict myself on another lady so that's me done really. Any ladies I am interested in (very few because I am so fussy it's beyond belief) are already spoken for.

On the upside I can have a fried egg sarnie at 2am while watching crappy late night films in my skidders sat amongst a sea of motorcycle bits. Told you I was horrible.

 

[MarkF]

I left home 27 years ago to live with a woman, then another woman, then another and so on...............if I could have kept the same looks then I'd have liked a different woman each year. I've never been alone, apart from cycle touring and those weeks are when I am at my happiest. I worry about the future, I have very itchy feet & Mrs F doesn't.

A good friend the same age, 50, has been divorced for ten years and is depressed by loneliness, I am sure we both covet each others lifestyle.

 

[snorri]

I wouldn't be as blunt about this arrangement as Sazzaa, but it's one I recognise from my own parents' household. I even used to argue gently with my dad about it, .

My parents were similar, but I never recognised the situation, it was just normal. Then I left home to work and stayed in digs and one evening the landlady was out and delayed in getting home. Her husband was totally lost, couldn't even get the plates and cutlery organised. I then realised that my father would have been in a similar situation and decided there and then that I would not get into that situation myself.
A few years after that the Womens Lib movement got under way so I doubt if I would have been allowed to become dependent on any woman after that

 

[Crackle]

I have a sister that is 3 years older then me

Ok

So not an only child, Numbnuts: Yay, I get it. Other explanations for preferring your own company are possible....

 

[snorri]

I wonder how User9609 managed it then?

I'm not sure if Womens Lib in the home has quite worked its way through one generation yet. It can't be long now until it does.