Men are Barstewards!

[Wigsie]

Whilst I am perusing the threads on this glorious forum Mrs Wigs uses a forum for mums talking about pregnancy, babies, toddlers etc.

Anyway, this one poor lady just posted a thread, basically over the last 2 years her and her boyfriend (of around 5 years) have been trying to have a baby, she had got pregnant twice and miscarried both times at 13 and 19 weeks. She is now pregnant again and just had their 12 week scan.

She text her boyfriend the other day as he said he was working late and got a text back from a different number saying "why are you texting my boyfriend?"

Turns out he has been seeing this other girl for the past 18 months and she is pregnant too!

Now when I was younger I played the field and I did on more than one occassion see more than one lady, invariably getting caught out after a few weeks.

How the hell do these guys have the time, concentration, energy and lack of morality to do stuff like this??

 

[levad]

... and then there is the child maintenance

 

[snorri]

How the hell do these guys have the time, concentration, energy and lack of morality to do stuff like this??

Well, I would tell you, but it might lead you off the straight and narrow and I wouldn't want to have that on my conscience.

 

[GrasB]

I hate hearing things like this, it makes me feel bad to be male
I hope a swift application of the knee to sensitive parts was issued. At least that's a slightly better way to find out someone's been cheating on you than going home because you've been physically sick at work to find your other half in bed with another woman. Some men are barstewards others aren't.

 

[al78]

Now when I was younger I played the field and I did on more than one occassion see more than one lady, invariably getting caught out after a few weeks.

How the hell do these guys have the time, concentration, energy and lack of morality to do stuff like this??

Surely you should be able to answer this question from your own past experiences?

 

[ComedyPilot]

Doesn't it take two to tango?

Yeah, the bloke's a complete cock, but are you telling me one or both of the women had NO idea he was messing them around?

I can't fart in the bath without being rumbled, let alone have an 18 month relationship with another woman.

 

[Lisa21]

Although I have never cheated or been cheated on, speaking as a woman I find it very hard to believe you would not know if your man was straying. I do think some women are happy to turn a blind eye to it, infact one member of my family is quite happy for her husband to "eat out" so to speak-so long as his wages keep on going into the bank.

 

[Wigsie]

Surely you should be able to answer this question from your own past experiences?

You answered your own question with the two sections you quoted... I always got caught after a week or two.

Doesn't it take two to tango?

Yeah, the bloke's a complete cock, but are you telling me one or both of the women had NO idea he was messing them around?

I can't fart in the bath without being rumbled, let alone have an 18 month relationship with another woman.

Well this is it... I can't understand it, neither of them deserved it but I can't imagine how they didn't know.

Although I have friends that are very active outside their relationships (various sports, socialising and clubs etc), all above board and innocent but could easily be diiping in to see someone else instead of the wholesome actvities they are doing!

 

[ComedyPilot]

You answered your own question with the two sections you quoted... I always got caught after a week or two.



Well this is it... I can't understand it, neither of them deserved it but I can't imagine how they didn't know.

Although I have friends that are very active outside their relationships (various sports, socialising and clubs etc), all above board and innocent but could easily be diiping in to see someone else instead of the wholesome actvities they are doing!

Is it me, or when you enter into a relationship with someone, don't you spend time with them, sleep with them and live with them? Activities aside, how does someone explain away being out all night on a regular basis - something you must do in a mirror-relationship with another person?

 

[Wigsie]

Is it me, or when you enter into a relationship with someone, don't you spend time with them, sleep with them and live with them? Activities aside, how does someone explain away being out all night on a regular basis - something you must do in a mirror-relationship with another person?

Business trips of a travelling salesman? In a previous role I spent 3 or 4 nights a week away from home selling dildos and porno's (but thats besides the point)

Growing up my dad was away from home at least 1.5 - 2 weeks of every month and could have easily been leading a double life.

 

[Lisa21]

I think it all boils down to trust. If your OH works away or stuff like that then I guess there would be opportunity if they wanted to?
But without trust there is nothing and if I was with someone who I couldnt trust not to sleep with someone else the moment my back was turned then I would much rather be single.

 

[ComedyPilot]

I think it all boils down to trust. If your OH works away or stuff like that then I guess there would be opportunity if they wanted to?
But without trust there is nothing and if I was with someone who I couldnt trust not to sleep with someone else the moment my back was turned then I would much rather be single.

Well said.

 

[Wigsie]

I think it all boils down to trust. If your OH works away or stuff like that then I guess there would be opportunity if they wanted to?
But without trust there is nothing and if I was with someone who I couldnt trust not to sleep with someone else the moment my back was turned then I would much rather be single.

100% agree with you Lisa, trust is everything, but how do you know you can't trust them untill they do something untrustworthy?

 

[Lisa21]

Thanks Honey

 

[Lisa21]

100% agree with you Lisa, trust is everything, but how do you know you can't trust them untill they do something untrustworthy?

Surely if you live with someone, share their life, you know them. You have an idea of the type of person that they are and if they are capable of certain behaviour. Maybe I am being naive or maybe im just lucky, but if I thought that whoever I was with would cheat on me, if I wondered if he was with someone else whenever he was away from me, what sort of life is that?? I for one could not be bothered...if your with someone your with them. If you want someone else then end it with who your with and move on. Simples