My best friend keeps sending dating info...

[luckyfox]

Jokers and trolls.. this ones not for you, looking for the wise owls please!

As I may have mentioned previously I am single and very much happily so. My best friend has been married for a number of years, in fact almost all of my close friends are married and he along with a couple of others send me info on dating or enquire as to that part of my life. (In a sweet, friendly way)

I love them to bits and I know they just want to see me happy but it hurts a bit that they can't see I'm already really very happy. Yes it would be nice to start seeing someone special, I date but I've just not met anyone I feel a connection with. My best friend is the sweetest man and he said some lovely things recently that got me thinking. He knows me best and maybe I am a bit closed off to a long term relationship. Not opposed... just not 'receiving and transmitting signal' as he put it.

My oldest/closest friends are all settled down and I do feel a tad 'Bridget Jones' when we all meet up. I have very few single good friends. I tend to float around different social circles atm. Since I've built up so much on my fitness this year I've grown apart from a lot of people. It's been really hard at times but in following my passions we've just drifted. I've loved focusing a lot on myself recently and just not really made any new strong friend/relationship connections. I get that my close friends are happily settled, having babies etc but my life is kinda on a different path.

But maybe it is time?

 

[MrWill]

 

[cd365]

It is only time if you feel it is, not what others think.

 

[cd365]

[QUOTE 3297205, member: 45"]ASL?[/QUOTE]
Been a long time since I read that lol

 

[Ganymede]

Jokers and trolls.. this ones not for you, looking for the wise owls please!

As I may have mentioned previously I am single and very much happily so. My best friend has been married for a number of years, in fact almost all of my close friends are married and he along with a couple of others send me info on dating or enquire as to that part of my life. (In a sweet, friendly way)

I love them to bits and I know they just want to see me happy but it hurts a bit that they can't see I'm already really very happy. Yes it would be nice to start seeing someone special, I date but I've just not met anyone I feel a connection with. My best friend is the sweetest man and he said some lovely things recently that got me thinking. He knows me best and maybe I am a bit closed off to a long term relationship. Not opposed... just not 'receiving and transmitting signal' as he put it.

My oldest/closest friends are all settled down and I do feel a tad 'Bridget Jones' when we all meet up. I have very few single good friends. I tend to float around different social circles atm. Since I've built up so much on my fitness this year I've grown apart from a lot of people. It's been really hard at times but in following my passions we've just drifted. I've loved focusing a lot on myself recently and just not really made any new strong friend/relationship connections. I get that my close friends are happily settled, having babies etc but my life is kinda on a different path.

But maybe it is time?

I think you're already saying it's time! But there is no point pairing up with someone just so you fit in to the crowd, as I think you know from your very considered post. There's no harm spending some time on yourself and your passions, in fact that can make you "match fit" for relationships in a way that fooling around for the sake of it might not.

Your friend sounds like a jewel and I'm sure if you said to him that you thought he was wrong about you then he would accept it. However, I think you think he has a point. I don't know how old you are but if you have a picture in your mind of yourself in 10 years' time, how does it look? Have you always thought you probably would end up with someone (just not yet) or does that image simply not occur to you?

 

[Dayvo]

You haven't said how OLD you are.

Seriously, though, if you are happy and content being single and child-free, then continue as you see fit, and for as long as it feels right.

As and when you start to date, whether socially or more 'intimately', then you will know how you want to progress.

Good luck, and most importantly, carry on enjoying yourself.

 

[luckyfox]

I think you're already saying it's time! But there is no point pairing up with someone just so you fit in to the crowd, as I think you know from your very considered post. There's no harm spending some time on yourself and your passions, in fact that can make you "match fit" for relationships in a way that fooling around for the sake of it might not.

Your friend sounds like a jewel and I'm sure if you said to him that you thought he was wrong about you then he would accept it. However, I think you think he has a point. I don't know how old you are but if you have a picture in your mind of yourself in 10 years' time, how does it look? Have you always thought you probably would end up with someone (just not yet) or does that image simply not occur to you?

Thanks for this, with me kind of moving social circles i feel a bit of a newbie and yeah you're right, I don't want to fit in but it would be nice to have partner in crime.

It's just not my focus atm but i don't think it has been for a while because im just happy. But maybe this is the vibe i give off on dates/when i meet people which explains it's self really.

You haven't said how OLD you are.

Seriously, though, if you are happy and content being single and child-free, then continue as you see fit, and for as long as it feels right.

As and when you start to date, whether socially or more 'intimately', then you will know how you want to progress.

Good luck, and most importantly, carry on enjoying yourself.

I'm 32, I have an amazing 13 year old son. I feel child free because he has his own life. I do love the single life

 

[Mo1959]

Can't offer any advice as I am 55 and still happily single. Lol. Just really not to feel pressured into something just because it seems the more acceptable thing if you are perfectly happy. Mind you, if you get to my age you start to become a bit selfish and don't actually want someone else in your life to have to consider so if you are going to give it a serious go, maybe sooner rather than later.

 

[cd365]

The right person will come along when you least expect it, until that happens have fun, live life.

 

[threebikesmcginty]

[QUOTE 3297205, member: 45"]ASL?[/QUOTE]

What's an ASL, honky?

 

[threebikesmcginty]

[QUOTE 3297334, member: 45"]You've not lived.[/QUOTE]

Surely that would be YNL.

 

[luckyfox]

[QUOTE 3297334, member: 45"]You've not lived.[/QUOTE]

Thats from the days of GSOH and WOHT (with own hair and teeth)

 

[threebikesmcginty]

[QUOTE 3297334, member: 45"]You've not lived.[/QUOTE]

I found out what it is now, thanks for your assistance in the matter, nobber.

 

[cyberknight]

What's an ASL, honky?

Advanced Stop Line surely ?

 

[Dayvo]

What's an ASL, honky?

I think it's something to do with using lots of Vaseline.