Riding in Circles
Veteran
- Location
- EDINBURGH
I have not seen my youngest daughter for 6 years, her mother made it very hard on her and I had to take the difficult decision to say she did not have to see me if she did not want to, my eldest insisted on continuing to see me so I know my youngest gets her birthday and christmas cards and gifts but I never ever hear from her or know what she looks like, even with my eldest I am not allowed to have her mobile number and I rarely see her during holidays, I could go back to court over it but I know their mother will take it out on them, even though she is now remarried. The courts unfortunately are stacked against the father, I spent £80k over three years just to retain access and even during the proceedings when my ex ignored the courts instructions she was merely told off, so she knew she could do whatever.
I even successfully sued one of her many barristers for some of my costs or I could easily have hit £100k but the access arrangements were ultimately ignored by her and she continued to and continues to attempt to marginalise my relationship with my children, primarily my eldest now I do not see my youngest.
To the person who commented on the OP not attempting to contact his daughter, you have no idea of the circumstances, sometimes the not resident parent has to sacrifice his/her own needs for the best interests of the child, that is what it costs sometimes to be a real parent, it breaks my heart every single day, not seeing my youngest and having so little time with my eldest. I know I will never attempt to contact my youngest daughter again, my door is always open for her if she ever needs me but it has to be her choice at such time she is free from the manipulation of her mother.
I even successfully sued one of her many barristers for some of my costs or I could easily have hit £100k but the access arrangements were ultimately ignored by her and she continued to and continues to attempt to marginalise my relationship with my children, primarily my eldest now I do not see my youngest.
To the person who commented on the OP not attempting to contact his daughter, you have no idea of the circumstances, sometimes the not resident parent has to sacrifice his/her own needs for the best interests of the child, that is what it costs sometimes to be a real parent, it breaks my heart every single day, not seeing my youngest and having so little time with my eldest. I know I will never attempt to contact my youngest daughter again, my door is always open for her if she ever needs me but it has to be her choice at such time she is free from the manipulation of her mother.