(Non) Relationship advice

[midlife]

I think to properly judge if it was indeed flirting, we need an example of the verbal sparring. Just a snippet. Word for word.

Brace yourself !

Shaun

 

[srw]

Brace yourself !

No - not flirting. Harassment.

 

[doog]

No - not flirting. Harassment.

You're on the wrong thread.

 

[SWSteve]

She wears a wedding ring? There's your out.... suggest going out for a drink, her and her husband, and you with your partner. That will make it clear that you have no horizontal intentions.

View: https://youtu.be/noTjI3CloYk

 

[subaqua]

No - not flirting. Harassment.

I was thinking about the other thread and this one and how the attitudes are different.

gives a sad reflection on society.

 

[MarkF]

I have thought long and hard about what was said over the past, I've not complimented her nor flirted with her, that is because she does not "flick my switch", looks don't come into it. I had no knowledge of her marital status, that is because I was not interested, if I was (& single) I would have found that out pretty damn quick. How I speak to her is no different to how I speak to the male colleagues that I am "tuned into" and I manage not to flirt with them well enough........... her sex doesn't make any difference to me in that respect.

In this time she has not complimented me, I would remember, nor do I recall her flirting with me, I would have noticed.

Other female friends at work have my number, texting is how they contact me, I don't do FB or any social media stuff.

I went and saw her today, after my shift as I am coward who spent all day worrying and thinking of what to say. I explained (aka - blurted out) that I was happy with MrsF and didn't feel comfortable spending any time at all with her outside of work and a date, as she has proposed, was absolutely out of the question. Of course she asked why had I given her the number and we went around in circles for a bit. She is divorced, single, she had seen the number as my green light to her and I apologised. It ended ok...ish..she sent me a "Thanks for telling me" text and that is it, can't see us getting back to "friends" again but at least it's sorted.

 

[uphillstruggler]

Good outcome to an (self inflicted) situation.

You can rest easily, just don't let the rabbit out of your sight.

 

[ChrisV]

Proud of you

 

[ChrisV]

Just don't do it again

 

[ChrisV]

I've enjoyed this thread

 

[MarquisMatsugae]

Damn !!!!
I was halfway through a new storyline for Mills & Boon .
The royalties for this alone would have set me up for life .

 

[r04DiE]

Well done, couldn't have been easy but you manned up and did what needed to be done. Good for you.

 

[Pat "5mph"]

Of course she asked why had I given her the number and we went around in circles for a bit..

That's what I asked you too
Between this thread and the harrasment at work thread I'm so glad I never worked in an office environment.
In catering we are more straight forward:
Colleague: wanna be my fancy woman?
Me: but you already have a girlfriend
C: aye, but 'ts ok, I don't live with her
Me: nay, I don't share.
Still work pals 8 years later

 

[r04DiE]

That's what I asked you too
Between this thread and the harrasment at work thread I'm so glad I never worked in an office environment.
In catering we are more straight forward:
Colleague: wanna be my fancy woman?
Me: but you already have a girlfriend
C: aye, but 'ts ok, I don't live with her
Me: nay, I don't share.
Still work pals 8 years later

I work with hairy engineers all day so I don't want to bang any of them anyway. Easy.

 

[Markymark]

Well done on sorting it out. It might be nice to buy her something as a friend now like some flowers and sexy underwear.