Passing of loved ones....

[Reynard]

I didn't have to go through all that, thank goodness.

Dad's funeral was just mum and me. And mum had a direct cremation, which was her wish. I'm glad, as I don't "do" all the brouhaha, even though I have some very good friends who would've been there for me.

Besides, other than some estranged step cousins, the family on dad's side is a convenient thousand miles east and west. Mum outlived her brothers, and they were both lifelong bachelors. And I have no siblings.

 

[Jameshow]

@Jameshow - remember it's a celebration of his life. Don't worry if you stumble a bit - it's almost expected. At least I did.

SWMBO on the other hand conducted her father's funeral service, including the internment, with apparent ease, although I know it wasn't easy for her. The minister she'd borrowed suggested SWMBO did the welcome and then kept prompting her to carry on.

We're all different and handle funerals differently. Just remember everyone is there to remember him

Thanks it went well we all did well with saying what we did, each had a different perspective, which was so like dad that he took interest in everyone's lives whatever thier interests!

 

[captain nemo1701]

I lost mum to a stroke in 2001, her brother (my Uncle) in 2005 and dad in 2007 so this century got off to a pretty crappy start for me. I regret mum never saw me turn 40 but dad just did. I remember the last time I was in the old family home, Xmas 2007. It was 8.00 am on a dark Sunday morning, I was going back to Bristol by train. I stood outside the house with my luggage, had put the door key through the neighbours letterbox as arranged. So I stood there for 5 minutes and said my final goodbyes to both parents, the house, the street I grew up in. It was then it all finally sunk in.

I'm 62 now and it was coming up 20 years ago. I still think of my parents, the final picture I took of them outside the old house in 2001 a few months before Mum passed away hangs on my bedroom wall. I can't listen to Mike & The Mechanics Living Years track without cracking up....I'll wager most people do.

 

[biggs682]

Yesterday was my last aunties interment after passing about 3 weeks ago after spending the last few years in a mixture of hospitals and nursing homes.

Mum is the last of 4 sisters at 91 so made sure she was there for the occasion.

 

[All uphill]

It's thirty years since I carried our lovely little daughter in her coffin to the grave.

Four years later we buried her sister in the same grave

Nothing has been the same since.

 

[Jameshow]

Yesterday was my last aunties interment after passing about 3 weeks ago after spending the last few years in a mixture of hospitals and nursing homes.

Mum is the last of 4 sisters at 91 so made sure she was there for the occasion.

The internment was the worst part tbh that went it became real and final. We got through it though. Most of the siblings haven't been through any real grief so it was a real shock to them. Bils have been good to my sister's as most of the have been through bereavement

 

[Jameshow]

It's thirty years since I carried our lovely little daughter in her coffin to the grave.

Four years later we buried her sister in the same grave

Nothing has been the same since.

That really put my loss in perspective.
Really feel for you🤗🤗🤗

 

[biggs682]

My late father's ashes are still sat on an old ercol table a year after he died.

Mum keeps commenting about what to do with them and her's when she goes and I keep telling her if she hasn't decided and told anyone the pr of them will end up in septic tank

 

[All uphill]

That really put my loss in perspective.
Really feel for you🤗🤗🤗

Thanks, I've felt for you too, as you've persevered through a couple of difficult years.

Keep going, it will get easier.

 

[mistyoptic]

My late father's ashes are still sat on an old ercol table a year after he died.

We scattered dad up on a hillside in North Wales, somewhere I have a happy photo of him. We try and visit once a year

 

[mistyoptic]

We scattered dad up on a hillside in North Wales, somewhere I have a happy photo of him. We try and visit once a year

Today was the day. This is the view we gave him, and the profile of the 6.8 mile route to get there in today’s heat. I need a beer

 

[Jameshow]

Thanks, I've felt for you too, as you've persevered through a couple of difficult years.

Keep going, it will get easier.

It will went for a walk with a friend yesterday the start of many I hope!

 

[Beebo]

My late father's ashes are still sat on an old ercol table a year after he died.

Mum keeps commenting about what to do with them and her's when she goes and I keep telling her if she hasn't decided and told anyone the pr of them will end up in septic tank

I have my father in law and mother in law’s ashes at home in special containers. They look quite decorative, not in traditional urns.
FiL has been here for 4 years now. Still no plan of what to do with them.

 

[annedonnelly]

My late father's ashes are still sat on an old ercol table a year after he died.

Mum keeps commenting about what to do with them and her's when she goes and I keep telling her if she hasn't decided and told anyone the pr of them will end up in septic tank

My mum's are on top of my wardrobe. My dad never did anything about them and my brother & I weren't brave enough to broach the subject with him. After he died my brother couldn't make a decision so basically left me with them. I enquired about adding them to a family grave but that turned out to be very expensive. So she's moved house with me and once I get some fruit trees to plant she's going in with them. My brother will be invited to help/watch but as he's shown no interest in seeing my new home I don't expect him to bother