Passing of loved ones....

[Reynard]

My sister's thinking of doing cash in the attic!!

The friend I go dog walking with knows a dealer in vintage / mid-century stuff who is interested, and so I'm likely to go down that route as and when. Far less embarrassing than appearing on TV.

 

[Accy cyclist]

My mother is a terrible hoarder and her hobby is going to car boot sales to buy more shoot she doesn't need. The house is packed, as is the attic.

If anything, my brother is even worse. He keeps everything. Even things like old TVs and washing machines that don't work and he probably has every car he ever owned. He just won't get rid of things or sell them.

I dread it if I ever end up dealing with it.

That makes my hoarding problem sound not that bad!🙄 Thank you for posting that, I feel much better now.😬

 

[Accy cyclist]

My mother died 8 years ago this coming August. To this day I cannot remember the actual date, unlike my dad's, even grandparents deaths which are etched in my memory. This is not because I didn't get on with my mum, as I did and do miss her very much, but as is the case with many folk who eventually die from dementia related illnesses, the relatives feel that they died years ago when the deceased started to deteriorate. 'The long goodbye' I've heard it called. My mother's death wasn't a relatively quick death like my dad's was, as she suffered for almost 6 years after her diagnosis. The day she died, my brother phoned to tell me. I found it to be a sad day, but not a totally depressing day like it was when my dad died. He was only 69, unlike my mum who was 82 when she died, so my thoughts might've been that she had a fair innings, unlike my dad did.

 

[ebikeerwidnes]

When my parents died I made a deliberate attempt to not remember the dates

I don;t need that "anniversary" - the memories and there and I can remember the bits i want to when I want to

My GranDad was one for anniversaries and I never felt it was a good thing

Although in his case it was things like WW1 and the date he was injured and Remembrance day and the "special date" for his regiment

but he added more personal ones on to a lesser extent

never liked the idea so with somethings I try not to remember the dates


depends on the person very much