Passing of loved ones....

[Accy cyclist]

My dad went in 1988 aged 44. My ambition has been to beat his record. So far so good - I'm 8 years up. Mum is still going but has Alzheimers, so not sure how much longer she has left.

On about records as in beating them, my dad's dad, his father in law and my dad himself all died aged 69. Even my usually none superstitious brother the other year said he's worrying about when/if he reaches 69. He's 68 this coming July, so he might be thinking it could be his last year. I have 3 years starting this November to go before I reach the 'dreaded 69' and even though I'm slightly superstitious, I'll see how my brother goes on before worrying about it!😉

 

[Reynard]

*HUGS* @Jameshow

Lost dad back in 2008 with alzheimers, but lost mum only two months back.

Just me and the cat chez Casa Reynard now.

 

[Stephenite]

My dad died when he was 52. I'm now 58. I really wish i could talk to him.

 

[Stephenite]

Any one lost parents recently?

My dad passed early this morning after short illness aged late 80s.

I will miss his comments on the Giro and even more so the tour.

Greatly loved and cherished by his daughter's and sons.

I wish you all the best

 

[sevenfourate]

Hugs, condolences, thoughts and prayers @Jameshow.

Lost my Mum to Leukemia when she was 48 and I was 20. Watched it all drag on for 3 years before she finally succumbed. That was a shock to the system for me…..

 

[Mo1959]

*HUGS* @Jameshow

Lost dad back in 2008 with alzheimers, but lost mum only two months back.

Just me and the cat chez Casa Reynard now.

Oh, I didn’t know you had lost your mum. So sorry to hear that.

 

[biggs682]

@Jameshow sorry for your loss.

My dad passed just over a year ago, mum is still alive and going strong at 91.

It takes a lot of getting used to not having dad around.

Dad missed my wedding but then we are not convinced we would have got him there as towards the end he didn't like to go outside of his comfort zone.

 

[DCLane]

My condolences @Jameshow to yourself and your family.

 

[alicat]

I'm sorry for your loss @Jameshow. Go easy on yourselves.

 

[Jameshow]

My main regret is that they never met my wife

The idea that I FINALLY managed to find a good one would have been a huge relief to them

and the grand kids (via her son) - my Mum would have loved them!!!

That's my great regret that my dad didn't meet some I have yet to meet. He was greatly saddened by my divorce so I hoped he would be cheered by me meeting someone new?

 

[oxoman]

Sorry to hear of your loss @Jameshow. Take it easy as you go through the next few weeks and months. I was unlucky to lose both mine before I was 21, I was 13 when my dad died and 20 when mum died. I'm nearly 61 now. Went through a whole load of crap till I was 30, then met my 2nd wife and we're still together. Lots of firsts I couldn't do with either parents that I've made sure to do with my kids. Please as a man dont bottle up your emotions, talk to somebody if you need to. I still have moments even now when I stop and think what my parents think or do in a situation.

 

[gbb]

Dad passed in 2014 at 84. Im sure he would have.lived longer but he lost his sight in his mid 60s so became housebound for the most part, so his fitness, confidence, awareness all took a big hit.
His eventual deterioration was only for a month or so, slowly stopped eating, just got too weak bless him. He literally died with a smile on his face as we sat around him and told him 'its ok dad, we're all here'

Mum went at 93, became a bit of a physical wreck and simply couldn't look after herself. She took a hyperglycemic event in the care home during her sleep and never woke up...passed around 24 hours later .

Both, like my wife, went very peacefully.

Condolences James, its an awful time..

 

[Donger]

So sorry for your loss.

 

[wafter]

Sorry to hear this

My dad went about ten years ago; we were never really close (he was emotionally and sometimes physically distant, while there was always conflict) and by the end he was riddled with dementia so really it was a relief for all concerned.

That said we were very similar and after years of working through my own shoot / becoming informed and mature enough to try harder to make it work, he was already too far gone to repair the damage caused by decades of dysfunction on both our parts. A regret I'll always carry with me.

Thankfully my mum is still with us (although her health isn't great) - when she goes it'll be devastating as I'm a lot closer to her and as an only child I know I'll struggle with the logistics of getting everything in order.

While (thanks largely to my mum) my life has improved a lot since I moved, her future is the core focus of my anxiety currently.

 

[Jameshow]

Dad passed in 2014 at 84. Im sure he would have.lived longer but he lost his sight in his mid 60s so became housebound for the most part, so his fitness, confidence, awareness all took a big hit.
His eventual deterioration was only for a month or so, slowly stopped eating, just got too weak bless him. He literally died with a smile on his face as we sat around him and told him 'its ok dad, we're all here'

Mum went at 93, became a bit of a physical wreck and simply couldn't look after herself. She took a hyperglycemic event in the care home during her sleep and never woke up...passed around 24 hours later .

Both, like my wife, went very peacefully.

Condolences James, its an awful time..

My dad went almost with a smile on his face...

Was shopping with mum on Thursday - was a hike up into the mpv too.
Confused on Friday morning didn't get out of bed, but rallied to tell paramedics his name and DOB, admitted to hospital, all reasonable interventions tried was stable whilst we all visited and died early hours..