I was musing the other day about how my daughter is missing out on one of the great pleasures of my university life: dropping in on people. Back then, you'd finish a piece of work at 3 in the morning and if you were in the mood just go for a wander round your friends' rooms. Sooner or later you'd come across a door with light showing under it, and you could drop in for a coffee. No-one 'drops in' anymore...they'd have to check first, which just isn't the same.
Yes I definitely feel myself that, it being so easy to get hold of someone quickly, actually knocking on a friend's door to ask if they want to go do something or whatever almost seems somehow too assertive, almost aggressively assertive. Because it is in comparison to sending a text first I suppose.
When I was at uni most of us did wedge our doors open in the halls a lot of the time, to kind of invite interaction. But I refused to sign up for Facebook and really cut myself out of a lot there- no one did that deliberately, but it just made it hard for me to know all the things going on. In hindsight I should have just swallowed my pride at the start and signed up but there you go.
Absolutely, 100%, YES!
It's far too easy to keep in contact with people now, through so many mediums, that IMHO it has watered down the value of keeping in touch with someone. I think what I am trying to say is that it has lost it's specialness.
I remember from my Merchant Navy days that when you left home to go and join a ship, that meant your only contact with people at home was going to be by the occasional letter or postcard until you came home 5 or 6 months later. When you DID get home, it meant that the catching up was amazing; you had a load of stories to tell, as did those you had left behind. Now? Everybody would know your every move while you were away by logging in to FaceBook.
My girlfriend has said similar to this- she meets up with her "old" friends back down south and they all already know what the other has been up to because it's all been seen on Facebook! Doesn't preclude discussion but does dampen the fun a bit, surely.
I miss letter writing. When I was at uni there was a pay phone for urgent matters but for all other communications with family we would exchange letters. I used to look forward to writing about what I'd done in the week and I always enjoyed the anticipation of picking up letters from friends and family. And when I met my future wife, then living 300 miles away, it was mostly through letters that we started to get to know each other.
When I was 20 I went abroad for 3 months in a summer. I had a new girlfriend and as you can imagine I was pretty keen and a bit torn about going. I wasn't going to have much internet access, definitely not for Skype, and so we did email a bit but used letters to properly communicate- mainly just for the fun of it I think.
I remember being homesick after the first 4 weeks and these letters took like 2 weeks to travel (and she was a very, very busy person who, again in hindsight, didn't exactly prioritise me too much.....) getting that first letter was just the most incredible pleasure, I was so happy to get it. Four pages from someone you're that into, when you haven't seen them in a while and are a long way from home, it was amazing. I think letters facilitate "saying more", because they are slightly removed in comparison to instant messaging and talking on the phone. You tend to be a bit bolder and more honest, because they aren't going to see it straightaway or respond immediately and somehow that makes it easier, I think.
At the time it seemed OK, but looking back it was completely useless
As a teenager....arranging to meet someone and they're delayed but you have no idea, or you're standing in the wrong place or whatever. Meet some girl and find you've got no way of keeping in touch except letter writing or a tortuous arrangement with payphones. Losing touch with people you went to school with.
It wasn't better. It was shoot
That does sound like a pain, waiting around not knowing if someone is going to turn up or not, or maybe they were delayed and you leae and just miss them.
I wouldn't mind the losing contact with people from school though, personally. I only have three I deliberately have kept in touch with. Although come to think of it that would be harder without phones and internet, yes.
I used to write letters at university to one of my college friends. In the end she told me to stop writing and just text. Ironically enough a while later she tried to contact me on facebook where I didn't read the message till three years later

. A Christmas card appeared at my home address last year despite her saying she couldn't remember where I lived and having not repeated it

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That's a shame, I think a lot of people would be happy to still write! I think you can find people who want penpals still, my girlfriend has one.