Rest in Peace and Happiness Mum

[Arjimlad]

Wonderful that you were there for her... saying goodbye is very hard to do.

 

[NormanD]

I must admit, I'm having a bit of a flashback to those final hospital visits myself now ...

Chin up Colin .. think happy thoughts of the good times mate

 

[Doseone]

Really sorry to hear that, hope you are as ok as you can be.

 

[Silver Fox]

May your mum rest in peace with God and his angels. My mum died with me at her side. I take comfort, as I hope you can, from knowing she passed away surrounded by those who loved her most.

 

[ColinJ]

Chin up Colin .. think happy thoughts of the good times mate

As I wrote a few posts back - it does get easier but Rolf's post reminded me of something that haunted me at the time ... My mum was sedated for her last 2 days and I spent 24 hours with her, holding her hand and stroking her forehead. A few days after she died, I wondered whether she had been able to feel what I was doing, and whether it had comforted or irritated her! It upset me to think that she might have been wanting me to stop, but had been unable to say so ...

But then I thought - no, no, don't be stupid - of course she'd find it comforting!

I'm sure that Rolf's mum was comforted too.

 

[Inertia]

Im sure (as anyone can be) they were both comforted, even if it was 'irritating' I bet she would say bless him, he thinks its helping me

Im still lucky enough to have my mum though I lost my dad a few years back which is different again, I wasn't there and he was on his own in the ambulance which is something that bothers my mum. Ive always said even if she wasn't literally with him, she was there and he knew it.

Best wishes BigonaBianchi, you will get through it and it will get easier though you always miss them, which is how it should be.

 

[AnneW]

Sorry to hear about your Mum Boab. My lovely Mum's been gone 6 years, her 5 children were with her when she went.

I hope your happy memories will help you through the next bit. It does get better, Colin's right.

Postman and Inertia I wasn't there when my Dad went, I'd been sent home (I was 9 months pregnant at the time). I like to think he knew I would've been there if I could and I bet it's the same for your parents.

Colin, you were doing the right thing stroking your Mum's forehead. Your Mum will have been fine with it, Mum's are. I know cause I'm one.

 

[cyberknight]

My thoughts go withyou and your family , i miss my mum every day even though it has been 30 + years since she died of cancer when i was 10 .My step mother has been very good but and saved our family bu she was never going to be my real mum.

 

[Francesca]

Mums are the back bone of all families.. Iam not very religious, but I thank God every day that Iam lucky my mum is still with me. She is 74, and fabulous! My mum means the world to me.

 

[betty swollocks]

God bless all mums.
So sorry for you and all the others who loved your dear mum.
I'm sure there are many.

 

[uphillstruggler]

RIP your mum BOAB

have happy thoughts about the good times.

 

[mickle]

They leave such enormous unfillable voids when they leave us.

RIP BoaBs mum.

And my mum, and everyone else's mum who's gone.

 

[biggs682]

Boabs sorry to hear that

not looking forward to the day either of my parents pass away .

 

[Arch]

Many condolences, but it sounds like it was a good as it could have been.

 

[rich p]

Sorry to hear that Rolf.
You have some good memories though.