School Bullies

[Andrew_P]

No real advice Fossy, I have 3 kids and it must be SO frustrating for you and awful for your son having his stomach churn everytime he thinks he may have an encounter with the small minded insecure scrote.

 

[Nihal]

Bullying is a serious issue,me being a kid,i'll give you some advice..............be friendly with everyone,don't make enemies,enjoy school.....................and if you end on the wrong side,tell him to bulk up a bit
And trust me,you did the right thing by posting those E-mails,proper authorities have to take notice,otherwise,we're the ones who are gonna suffer slilently.

And no,i've neither bullied nor been bullied by anyone,so don't you point towards me

Good luck,fossyant

 

[Nihal]

Sorry but I disagree. I have met bullies who have studied martial arts, I even know one sensei who I would class as a bully so I would doubt judo is immune to them. What happens if the kid bullying your children decides he needs to learn judo too, you just get an escalation.

Professional bullies,the most dangerous kind

 

[ttcycle]

Hi Foss,

Awful situation for your kid to be in- it's good that you're giving him backing and support as that's really important.

I hope the meeting at school leads to something if not, as you know, escalate the situation with the authorities until it gets sorted.

 

[ufkacbln]

Ask for the local Beat Bobby to attend the meeting as an informal advisor.

Friends of mine did exactly that and the School's attitude changed immediately.

 

[Andrew_Culture]

The headmaster at my Compo was brutally hard on bullying, which made the school experience nothing short of blissful. When my kids get to that age I'd almost base school choice on bullying policy alone.

 

[compo]

I went to an Approved School which was pretty tough and bullying was rife. If you didn't stand up for yourself life could become pretty painful, with little intervention from the staff. Being residential they didn't have to worry about kids going home and irate parents.

We had one lad who kept picking on me, and worse I had to share a meal table with him. Most mornings he would play spiders and creep his fingers across the table then grab one of my sausages or rasher of bacon. I put up with this for several weeks but then one morning he caught me in the wrong mood. As his hand came across the table I bought my fork down with all my force into his hand and actually impaled his hand to the table. I got into serious trouble, including a good whacking with the cane, but that lad never bullied me again and in fact we eventually became friends. Another lad who tried it on with me walked into a snooker ball inside a sock. After that most people left me alone and I can honestly say I never became a bully although I would stand up for myself.

I can say it is bulls**t that if you stand up to bullies they are all cowards and will back down. I have seen lots of kids who believed that load of tripe and paid the penalty.

 

[Mike5537]

I was bullied at school, mostly verbal but it sometimes got physical till one day a kid got me in the wrong mood, I got the red mist and picked him up by his throat and threw him back against a wall, my mates had to hold me off him and I came round a minute later and he was dazed and cowering on the floor. I rarely got trouble after that. I'm all for standing up for yourself and hate the fact that I didnt do it sooner. Yes there is alway a bigger bully but if one reaction makes half of them think twice then its a win in my book.

if your going to get a kicking anyway you may as well go down swinging. Maybe if they think your son is a harder target they will leave him alone.

Good luck

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[asterix]

Credit to the OP for standing up for his son. I was at a school where one guy was picked on by some scum who beat him up quite badly. He had a bit of a speech impediment, no other reason.

We had one lad who kept picking on me, and worse I had to share a meal table with him. Most mornings he would play spiders and creep his fingers across the table then grab one of my sausages or rasher of bacon. I put up with this for several weeks but then one morning he caught me in the wrong mood. As his hand came across the table I bought my fork down with all my force into his hand and actually impaled his hand to the table. I got into serious trouble, including a good whacking with the cane, but that lad never bullied me again and in fact we eventually became friends. .

I don't believe that. I think he sleeps with the fishes.

 

[Over The Hill]

IMO School gets one chance to deal with it. The thing that seems to frighten schools most is their ofsted report so worth seeing if you could influence the ofsted and so have some leverage with the school - that would get their attention. You are entrusting your child with the school and they are under an obligation to provide a safe environment.
After that one chance if they cannot come up with a 100% solution then it is a police matter - press charges for assult. Sue the bully for damages too for good measure. Anything to bring the parents in. If someone did to you or I what was done to your child it would be considered an assult. The fact they are younger or it was in a school environment is neither here nor there.
If all else fails in my day you could always get the kids in the next year up to duff up someone for the right price! Enlist some help from the year above. My sister was in the year above me and I knew her boy friends so got them to deal with a few issues (they would do anything to get in sisters good books).
Hope you get is sorted. People are so horrid.

 

[Doseone]

Bullying is a terrible thing. You are doing the right things to get it sorted but the most important thing you can do for your son, which I'm sure you have done already, is give him a hug, tell him that you love him and that you are there for him.

Sounds like the school are taking action, but if they drag their feet go straight to the Chair of the Governors.

 

[MontyVeda]

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As his hand came across the table I bought my fork down with all my force into his hand and actually impaled his hand to the table.
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Another lad who tried it on with me walked into a snooker ball inside a sock.
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This is not advice.

(i hope)

 

[Berties]

Bullying is the lowest,and there are many forms of bullying from pack level struggling as I call it when the weakest are selected and bullied physical or verbally ,or just plain violence for the sake of they can,I experienced jealousy bullying ,I was good looking always had nice clothes ,a lady and attracted lads who would see what response they could get from you,but the brainless thugs forgot i boxed and was western area judo champion,by the time I left school I could knock out a thug and walk away un scaved ,it's easy for me to say now but If I could not handle a group I would revisit the situation at a latter time with extreme violence on a one to one basis ,when I joined the army at 16 no one tried to bully the good looking lad any more,but you must keep log report it to the authorities ,schools now have a duty of care policy,but back in the 80 s no one seem to give a second look and it was survival of the fittest

 

[compo]

compo said: ↑

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As his hand came across the table I bought my fork down with all my force into his hand and actually impaled his hand to the table.
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Another lad who tried it on with me walked into a snooker ball inside a sock.
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This is not advice.

(i hope)

Definitely not advice in this day and age of gangs, knives, guns.

 

[summerdays]

Good luck - I hope the meeting has a good result. I hate bullying though I was lucky as a child not to really experience it myself. Both of my elder children have suffered mild bullying for short periods - enough that I went into school and that it slightly influenced the secondary school choice (and though I didn't mean to it came up in my appeal for the school I wanted when they asked why I hadn't put down a particular school).

Adults have to let children know (both the bully and the bullied) that it will not be tolerated.