Seeing your kids off to university

[Pro Tour Punditry]

OK, here's your chance to support my elder child (the barrista in training) make a difference, in memory of my dad and her grandad:
https://www.justgiving.com/fundrais...yfe&utm_campaign=pfp-share&utm_term=p64pDgZwy

Her "training" for tomorrow's event involved drinking a lot of alcohol and borrowing a base layer from me so she looks the part...

 

[Julia9054]

Took son number 2 back to Manchester to start his second year last week in my 10 year old Renault Clio with the back seat ripped out because he has so much stuff! Why does a 19 year-old need 7 suits?
He has taken his bike with him this year as he has moved out to Rusholme - might make a cyclist out of one of them yet.
I love it when they come back for the holidays . . . but i also love it when they go away again!

 

[Drago]

Grand children? You never know.

I have Grandchildren. Obviously, I love them very much, but being realistic they're the offspring of unemployed waster daughter #2 so I'm not holding my breath.

 

[Julia9054]

Oh man, I'm going to have to try and find tuition fees times two. At the same time. Twins bring you much joy but they are expensive! Got GCSEs and A levels to get through yet.

You don't find the tuition fees unless ou are very rich. They take out loans for that. My two boys are music students. The likelihood of them earning enough to have to pay it back is remote.

 

[screenman]

We had a party when they last one moved out on January 1st this year, after 43 years of kids at home the party was just the two of us, brilliant.

 

[Sandra6]

Oh man, I'm going to have to try and find tuition fees times two. At the same time. Twins bring you much joy but they are expensive! Got GCSEs and A levels to get through yet.

As Julia said, you are not expected to pay the fees for them. Or pay their living expenses either. You can if you want to, if you can afford it, and that's fine, but don't feel it's your responsibility, that's what loans and grants are for.

I went with mr6 to drop eldest daughter off - she's now graduated - it wasn't a momentous occasion. We lugged assorted boxes up two flights of stairs into a grotty room, she spotted a friend and we were dismissed!
There were a few other people milling about, a couple of cars came and went, but it's not like you see on the telly when everyone turns up on the same day and it's all fun and games and waving handkerchiefs. I didn't go when son no2 was dropped as there wasn't room in the car.

 

[Hugh Manatee]

@Julia9054 and @Sandra6 Thanks, I know I don't have to but I will probably end up paying a good bit of it. Our daughter is already making noises about the subject she is gifted at (art) isn't important enough to warrant all that money. Son is more onto a winner with maths/further maths being his thing.

 

[JtB]

[QUOTE 4967586, member: 259"]When I went to uni in 1980, I went to pick up my full grant at the arts building and it saw me in basics plus a few spliffs and pints (supplemented by summer jobs and Saturday jobs). I can only pity the poor sods now graduating with 30000 quids' worth of debts and more for tuition fees alone.

(Sorry to put a downer on the thread)[/QUOTE]
I didn't have any debt when I left uni in 82 and was able to afford a mortgage on my first house a few months later on a graduate salary. When my eldest son left uni a couple of years ago his debt was quite small because my Dad and my wife and I paid most of his fees and expenses. But he's not that grateful to us because he reckons most student debt will get written off anyway.

 

[wheresthetorch]

Taken to Uni? My parents just stuck me on a train.

 

[summerdays]

I've one who is out the other side and now employed!, one in year 3, and then we will have a gap to see if the youngest is likely to go, but I'm not so sure he will as he has a different personality!

I would say there was a mix of people when we dropped off the two eldest, but perhaps that was as a result of choosing the cheaper accommodation. I wanted them to socialise in the kitchen with their fellow housemates and not be isolated in well equipped rooms.