Significant other not impressed with new hobby........help

[thunderlips76]

So my girlfriend sees me taking up cycling as a midlife crisis issue. Where as I see cycling as exciting, challenging, social and good for my fitness, she sees it as expensive, time consuming, dangerous and childish.when I tried on my Lycra stuff and helmet for her, she just looked at me in disgust ( not helped by the fact my mate was just wearing bib shorts...... And he's a fat lad)

Any tips for making her see the light? Or will we never see eye to eye on the matter.

 

[AndyRM]

Expensive and time consuming? Yes, depending on how much bling you fancy and your level of commitment. Dangerous and childish? Nope.

She may never see the light, but has she no hobbies which cost money and time?

I'd not be rushing to put on a Lycra based modelling show by the way. It's clothing which serves a purpose, and if you're not a whippet it's unlikely to be all that flattering.

 

[Keith Oates]

If she's against the idea then there is not much you can say to change her mind, however, after doing the cycling and getting to be more fit and healthy it will say more to her than any words would!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Hacienda71]

Buy her a bike

 

[zizou]

As far as midlife crisis' go, cycling is pretty benign. Drink to excess take some class As and sleep around see how she likes that!

Its also your hobby which you enjoy so unless you are out all hours cycling and not spending any time with her then its really poor form from her to have a go at you for doing it!

 

[jack smith]

She wont be compalining when your superfit and ripped!

 

[raleighnut]

Start leaving motorcycle brochures where she can find them, preferably with price lists attached and circles around things like the Hyabusa, Ducati monster or some of the Harley range. Bicycles will seem quite cheap.

 

[raleighnut]

Or alternatively you could leave brochures for golf club membership around and pricelists for sets of 'bats', maybe suggest joint membership.

 

[Tommy2]

Or trade her in for a newer model.

 

[thunderlips76]

Or alternatively you could leave brochures for golf club membership around and pricelists for sets of 'bats', maybe suggest joint membership.

Haha my other friends have started golfing...... With a view to golfing in Portugal, which would bankrupt me. My girlfriend is into showing dogs, which has a very bizarre sub culture. Now that is expensive, but I try and take notice and seem interested.

 

[annedonnelly]

Just keep cycling and let her see that you're enjoying it - and perhaps getting fitter. She may just be worried that it's just a fad and there'll soon be a rusty, unused bike in the garage and a pile of lycra that you never use.

 

[helston90]

My wife accused my cycling as being a midlife crisis hobby (even when I'm in my 20's), it beats her hobby of online shopping though.
I found the best treatment for this was to invite her friends' husband/ partner cycling, they then get the whole 'cycle widow' thing going on and meet up for coffee.

 

[guitarpete247]

I go out when she's doing the ironing or she wants me from under her feet. Either then or when I finish work before (if I haven't got cooking to do).

 

[ScotiaLass]

Everyone needs a hobby.
Cycling is (or can be) social, healthy etc. As someone else said, it needn't be expensive.
Just go for it!
I wonder how much your g/f spends on dog shampoos, brushes, entry fees for shows, transport, vets fees......

 

[ufkacbln]

Or trade her in for a newer model.

BIke or Girlfiriend?

Whole new meaning to N+1