SWMBO

[nickyboy]

There's always the interesting discussion about joint finances in a marriage but we just have joint accounts, no personal money as such. So if I want to buy a bike, it means we, the family, don't buy something else.
That means there is a prioritisation of our cash. Whilst a bike may be important to me, it isn't important to mrs nickyboy or the children. As it happens I am going to spend about £1,300 on a bike this spring. But this is only because the family finances are in a state to handle it and we can still do all the other things we want to do as a family. Cycling is just me so family stuff like holidays has to come first

 

[Melonfish]

i'll have you know i have a right to be a woman too should i wish.
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and sometimes i do wish... *sigh*

anyways, me and the missus have seperate accounts because frankly i buy rubbish and she buys shoes (rubbish) we share bills tho so all sorted heh.

 

[SteCenturion]

i'll have you know i have a right to be a woman too should i wish.
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and sometimes i do wish... *sigh*

anyways, me and the missus have seperate accounts because frankly i buy rubbish and she buys shoes (rubbish) we share bills tho so all sorted heh.

I wish I could - double like - this.
Anyway following on from my last post briefly.
We have a joint account for mortgage, bills, child care/clothing & food etc, but we pay a set amount into it from our own private accounts.
While everything I buy is "SH1TE" - everything my 'Better half' buys is necessary inc 40+ handbags 12 pairs black trousers (all the same) and a weekly clothes shop @ George/Neu Look etc etc. Not to mention 2 dozen bottles of perfume.
There in lies the beef.
Oh well.
'Least she smells nice.

 

[nickyboy]

I wish I could - double like - this.
Anyway following on from my last post briefly.
We have a joint account for mortgage, bills, child care/clothing & food etc, but we pay a set amount into it from our own private accounts.
While everything I buy is "SH1TE" - everything my 'Better half' buys is necessary inc 40+ handbags 12 pairs black trousers (all the same) and a weekly clothes shop @ George/Neu Look etc etc. Not to mention 2 dozen bottles of perfume.
There in lies the beef.
Oh well.
'Least she smells nice.

We had the same system as you until the first child came along. Mrs Nickyboy gave up work so I paid for everything. Even now she earns a fraction of what I do so it seems unreasonable to ask her to shoulder the financial burden. So we stick whatever we have in the pot and both behave sensibly re spending. Bits and bobs just buy, big stuff we make joint decisions

 

[SteCenturion]

No -

OXO.

Bovril have started making perfume?

 

[pplpilot]

We have a joint account that we both pay equal into from our salaries to cover everything, mortgage, bills, shopping nursury fees, holiday fund the house keeper and gardeners wages We both have our own accounts with what's left from our salaries, that is our own money to do as we wish. As long as the the joint acc is covered and the children are ok for everything then all is fine. Neither of us ask for 'permission' to do something we don't, we discuss what it is either of us wishes to go off and do and there is no conflict with other arrangements...

 

[Pat "5mph"]

@BigonaBianchi bet you would gladly do a wee bit of "obeying" in return for some stability in life, some practical help and encouragement, the odd wee cuddle
When I was younger, so much younger than today, I never needed help in any way ... now

 

[Cush]

When I was doing an O U writing course I got marked down heavily for one of my characters using SWMBO. The tutor (a female) "did not belive in this sort of derogatory abbreviation" I pointed out that unlike herself and many of my fellow students, my wife and I are happily married and have been since the year . and I always check with her when I think a remark may seem offensive or condescending. I got marked down even more heavily on my next assignment. I still refer to the wife as SWMBO or the Gaffer and I think she likes it.

 

[thom]

It's a meaningless acronym "FFS" - and it's the internet. Be prepared to take and give the mickey*. Please, let's not start another useless argument...it is getting really tiresome when people don't apply a bit of wit to the stuff they post. Anyway, calm down...peace and love in the café right?

*politeness rules sometimes.

Tif proffering his owlish advice to wit to woo you to his pov.
A post strangely devoid of puns so you know he's being serious.

 

[stephec]

I just use the name Mistress, unless I'm told otherwise.

 

[swansonj]

I see this a lot on here. SWMBO. She who must be obeyed.

I read comments about having got permission to go out, to buy a bike, to whatever whatever...

Are guys really so under the thumb??

Come on chaps...don't let them get away with it...we have a right to be men....

I will not rise to the bait.
I will not rise to the bait.
I will not rise to the bait.
OK: BOAB, you clearly have you own understanding of what to "be a man" is all about. But I would just like everyone else on here, and particularly all women, to be reassured that quite a few of us saddled with a Y chromosome nonetheless try quite hard to move on from an understanding of manhood as being about the "right" to leave our cave and go hunting sabre tooth tigers whenever we want and without consulting anybody. In fact, some of us try not to understand life, let alone relationships, let alone relationships with people we have made a commitment to, as being very much about "rights" at all....

 

[stephec]

<pedantry>
No it isn't, it's a meaningless initialism, acronyms must be pronounceable

BBC - Initialism
NATO - Acronym
</pedantry>

You know that thread about what you learnt in 2013?

I'm going to start a new one for 2014.

 

[Roadrider48]

@BigonaBianchi bet you would gladly do a wee bit of "obeying" in return for some stability in life, some practical help and encouragement, the odd wee cuddle
When I was younger, so much younger than today, I never needed help in any way ... now

Why is his life not stable?

 

[Pat "5mph"]

Why is his life not stable?

Absolute freedom to do whatever to like without considering another's wishes conduces to sloppy lifestyles: says me sitting in front of CC, cat on lap, no milk in fridge, washing needs out of machine, bathroom needs cleaned ... oops ... so does bike ... better get moving!

 

[SteCenturion]

I will not rise to the bait.
I will not rise to the bait.
I will not rise to the bait.
OK: BOAB, you clearly have you own understanding of what to "be a man" is all about. But I would just like everyone else on here, and particularly all women, to be reassured that quite a few of us saddled with a Y chromosome nonetheless try quite hard to move on from an understanding of manhood as being about the "right" to leave our cave and go hunting sabre tooth tigers whenever we want and without consulting anybody. In fact, some of us try not to understand life, let alone relationships, let alone relationships with people we have made a commitment to, as being very much about "rights" at all....

I love fighting tigers & my cave is a lovely shade of grey & mortgage free.

Cave..

WOMAN...

TIGERS....