Tea? (Part 1)

[shinamo]

sorry for this interlude I hope speicher understands . Vivid deam last night i was sat on a lakeside bank and my son was sat adjacent but approx. 5 metres away a fisherman caught a fish and reeled it in and we watched whilst joni mitchell was playing in the background " I've looked at life from both sides now " Divorced and he stayed with my ex. I do feel guolty about not being " there " . So vivid . Enjoy Jung or dabble Speicher ?
Anyway quick cuppa . I'll try it strong . 'mornin all !

 

[trustysteed]

You're a big boy

why, thank you!

 

[shinamo]

lovely day , crop sprayers have been out early !

 

[wafflycat]

Well, it was not a good day yesterday. I had hoped that "family" issues would improve, now I realise that it is not possible. Just wish I had realised that some time ago, and not tried so hard, and wasted so much energy and time.

FWIW, I had similar. When I came to realise that no matter what *I* did nothing was going to change, I was disappointed, but at the same time, it was as if a great weight was lifted off me. There's nothing in life that says families have to be nice to each other, be best friends, be supportive of each other. You can't choose your family. But you can choose how you react to your family. And sometimes that means accepting that things aren't hunky-dory and never will be. It's hugely empowering (sorry for the PC wording) to realise that you can choose not to let them wind you up. In my case, life was sooooo much better when I had nothing whatsoever to do with an entire section of my family.

*hugs*

 

[Speicher]

Thank you all for the *hugs* and understanding on the subject of families.
I think that I tried my best to improve the situation, and as you all seem to be saying, at some point you realise there is no more you can do.

 

[Speicher]

On a lighter note, Doctor, the cycling show to which I refer is in Nottingham, 25th and 26th May. If you look at the sig line for Mickle posts, he has got the link to the site for the show.

Edinburgh was mentionned because I was going to visit Edinburgh after the show. I had found a cheap rail ticket from Nottingham to Edinburgh, and was hoping to take advantage of that. However, it might be York instead, to visit the trainspot museum etc.

 

[TheDoctor]

FWIW, I had similar. When I came to realise that no matter what *I* did nothing was going to change, I was disappointed, but at the same time, it was as if a great weight was lifted off me. There's nothing in life that says families have to be nice to each other, be best friends, be supportive of each other. You can't choose your family. But you can choose how you react to your family. And sometimes that means accepting that things aren't hunky-dory and never will be. It's hugely empowering (sorry for the PC wording) to realise that you can choose not to let them wind you up. In my case, life was sooooo much better when I had nothing whatsoever to do with an entire section of my family.

*hugs*

Waffles, I find myself agreeing with you wholeheartedly yet again! We must stop this. And you're right. Some family members I get on well with, make a big effort to see them even though they live far away and all that, but others I can't bear the thought of seeing ever again. That's the point. I don't have to.

Speicher, it's perfectly OK to not get on with family. You're not alone in this. I've got friends I'd go to any lengths for, and some forum members I'd *really* like to get to know in real life, and then I'd maybe go to any lengths for them too. I've also got family members, who should be really close to me, who I'd barely p1ss on if they were on fire. Don't feel bad about it - as Waffles says, once you realise that you're not obliged to do something, it's a weight off the shoulders.

*gentle hug*

 

[TheDoctor]

On a lighter note, Doctor, the cycling show to which I refer is in Nottingham, 25th and 26th May. If you look at the sig line for Mickle posts, he has got the link to the site for the show.

Edinburgh was mentionned because I was going to visit Edinburgh after the show. I had found a cheap rail ticket from Nottingham to Edinburgh, and was hoping to take advantage of that. However, it might be York instead, to visit the trainspot museum etc.

Ohhh, that one. I'm hoping to get to Nottingham for that, assuming I make it up Ventoux without wanting to bury my bike (or myself!) in a deep hole. If I do, we'll have to meet up. It would be great to start meeting the people I've got to know and like on here. If the Company of Cyclists are involved, I wonder if Arch will be along? Better stock up on biskits!

Thank you all for the *hugs* and understanding on the subject of families.
I think that I tried my best to improve the situation, and as you all seem to be saying, at some point you realise there is no more you can do.

On my part, you're more than welcome. I'm glad if we've helped a bit

 

[Arch]

Ohhh, that one. I'm hoping to get to Nottingham for that, assuming I make it up Ventoux without wanting to bury my bike (or myself!) in a deep hole. If I do, we'll have to meet up. It would be great to start meeting the people I've got to know and like on here. If the Company of Cyclists are involved, I wonder if Arch will be along? Better stock up on biskits!

Arch is currently booked to appear yes, barring any nasty stuff, like having another job I can't get out of, cropping up in the meantime.

When I say booked to appear, I mean really, I've said I'll work. I'm not anticipating having a podium to myself or anything. Although after yesterday's media frenzy....

I have just remembered, prompted by tdr1inka's avatar, the teashop in York with all the novelty teapots in the window. I must try and get a photo.

*puts kettle on*

Oh, dear, I'm not sure I should be trusted to make tea. Yesterday evening I was in bed (I retreat there for warmth at this time of year), and had my cup of tea on the bedside table and knocked it with the duvet and managed to cover myself and half the bed fairly comprehensively in tea. Annoyingly, it was at just the right temperature for drinking, and a full mug. I had to sleep on the other side of the bed last night, while the mattress dried out...

*goes and sits quietly in a corner where she can't do any damage*

 

[trustysteed]

oh dear, that's bad luck. i managed to knock over one of the sunflowery crystal glasses i'd bought my wife for honeymoon last nite and shattered it.

bit of the doghouse, and no wet patch in bed for me last nite!

 

[TheDoctor]

Arch is currently booked to appear yes, barring any nasty stuff, like having another job I can't get out of, cropping up in the meantime.

When I say booked to appear, I mean really, I've said I'll work. I'm not anticipating having a podium to myself or anything. Although after yesterday's media frenzy....

Liking the sound of Arch on a podium. Can we choose the music? And the costume? Oh - hang on, we're not talking about dancing here, are we?

I have just remembered, prompted by tdr1inka's avatar, the teashop in York with all the novelty teapots in the window. I must try and get a photo.

*puts kettle on*

Oh, dear, I'm not sure I should be trusted to make tea. Yesterday evening I was in bed (I retreat there for warmth at this time of year), and had my cup of tea on the bedside table and knocked it with the duvet and managed to cover myself and half the bed fairly comprehensively in tea. Annoyingly, it was at just the right temperature for drinking, and a full mug. I had to sleep on the other side of the bed last night, while the mattress dried out...

*goes and sits quietly in a corner where she can't do any damage*

Arch, I'm still struggling to deal with Waffleys mental image from yesterday *Waffles in a pool. swimming very very slowly...*and now I'm having to cope with the notion of you in bed covered in tea! I may be headed for some kind of plumbing-related excursion here.

*joins Arch in the corner with a big mug partly full of tea, and a large towel*

 

[Arch]

Liking the sound of Arch on a podium. Can we choose the music? And the costume? Oh - hang on, we're not talking about dancing here, are we?



Arch, I'm still struggling to deal with Waffleys mental image from yesterday *Waffles in a pool. swimming very very slowly...*and now I'm having to cope with the notion of you in bed covered in tea! I may be headed for some kind of plumbing-related excursion here.

*joins Arch in the corner with a big mug partly full of tea, and a large towel*

Thankyou, the towel is a sensible precaution indeed. I'm not normally all that clumsy. I was quite tired and stiff yesterday - a day of riding back and forth for the telly, on top of a Sunday digging on the allotment, have left me a bit sore in the limbs. Still, I've got half my onions in. Alas, I think my seed potatoes have blight...

 

[TheDoctor]

Can I offer you a massage, then? *hopeful*
We have a towel already, I'll just grab some scented oil. Floral, musky, lemony, WD-40 (NOT a lubricant!), what takes your fancy?
Let me crank the fire up a bit too *Log -> fire*
I'd hate you to get cold.
I'd have to warm you up then, and that would be an arduous task.
Or maybe not.
Ahem.

Here you go. Lie on that, *puts towel on sofa* let me loosen these a little bit *struggles with fleece* and have some tea. And some chocolate.
*rubs shoulders and back in just-possibly therapeutic fashion*

 

[Arch]

Can I offer you a massage, then? *hopeful*
We have a towel already, I'll just grab some scented oil. Floral, musky, lemony, WD-40 (NOT a lubricant!), what takes your fancy?
Let me crank the fire up a bit too *Log -> fire*
I'd hate you to get cold.
I'd have to warm you up then, and that would be an arduous task.
Or maybe not.
Ahem.

Here you go. Lie on that, *puts towel on sofa* let me loosen these a little bit *struggles with fleece* and have some tea. And some chocolate.
*rubs shoulders and back in just-possibly therapeutic fashion*

Thank you, but I think it would be less messy if you had put the chocolate down before rubbing my back....

*practical thought*

With regard to oils, I'm running out of sunflower margarine, if you used that I could just take the rest of the tub home and save a trip to the shops...

Actaully, it's more the small of my back that is stiff...

 

[trustysteed]

Actaully, it's more the small of my back that is stiff...

i think you'll find it's the small of TheDoctor's front that is stiff!

maybe it's just the angle i'm looking from...