Teenage daughter and Facebook guidance...

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welsh dragon

Thanks but no thanks. I think I'll pass.
3 of my grandchildren have face book accounts, and all 3 of them have added me as a friend.:laugh:. A couple of weeks ago the youngst of them stopped his mum and sister from being able to see his account, but not me. How cool is that. His mum was not amused to say the least. :laugh:
 

sazzaa

Guest
I didn't have a bad experience as a child I was the bad experience, as for trusting people I've brought my daughter up to have experiences that most kids will never have, things that kids of my generation took for granted. building dens, camping in homemade shelters in the woods without parents or adults cooking over a wood fire, hunting, skinning, eating rabbits, fireside story telling and the like, as well as swimming in the rivers and streams and building rafts. It's not my daughter I don't trust, well not now, she's grown enough to have earnt it. it's others.

Not sure why you're trying to justify yourself as a parent here. You said you didn't trust your kids, I'm saying I think it's awful. No amount of camping trips change that.
 

tadpole

Senior Member
Location
St George
You not trust your household to ignore any such posts on facebook?
I didn't trust my 11 year old daughter to know that someone posting as a friend was not who or what that claimed they were, just as I would trust an inexperienced adult to open post from a Nigerian prince.
 

Cycling Dan

Cycle Crazy
Not sure why you're trying to justify yourself as a parent here. You said you didn't trust your kids, I'm saying I think it's awful. No amount of camping trips change that.
I imagine its rather horrible having a parent who does not trust you and in turn you have to justify everything you say and do for them to believe you.
 

Cycling Dan

Cycle Crazy
I didn't trust my 11 year old daughter to know that someone posting as a friend was not who or what that claimed they were, just as I would trust an inexperienced adult to open post from a Nigerian prince.
What 11 year old friends will she have on facebook posting about drugs?
For the Princes of ScamLand
She has to add them to talk to people most of the time and unless they are added its not going to show in her feed.
 

tadpole

Senior Member
Location
St George
Not sure why you're trying to justify yourself as a parent here. You said you didn't trust your kids, I'm saying I think it's awful. No amount of camping trips change that.
I wasn't trying to justify myself as anything. I do not have any reason to not to you or anyone else. You do have kids? Would you trust them to park your car, or change the wheel on your bike? no.. why not? I wouldn't as they don't have enough experience to know what is what. Same with life, back when your kid was a toddler would you let them go on a play day out of sight of you with a friend of a friend whom you've never met?
So why are yo so happy to expose them to that risk online?
Cyberbullying and cybergrooming happens because people allow their kid free-rein on the internet "trusting them" to go to their parents if there is a "problem".
 

tadpole

Senior Member
Location
St George
What 11 year old friends will she have on facebook posting about drugs?
For the Princes of ScamLand
She has to add them to talk to people most of the time and unless they are added its not going to show in her feed.
My daughter had friends at her infant school whose teenage brothers/sisters regularly smoked drugs at home. when My daughter was allowed on facebook, buying drugs would be mentioned not infrequently by siblings of her old school friends.
 

LutherB

Well-Known Member
Location
Iver
I think everyone, young or old, should know the rule.....

No public 'Party at my house' posts! :stop: :thumbsup:
 

tadpole

Senior Member
Location
St George
you
Even kids know not to post about drugs on the internet... But if that's what people need to tell themselves to justify their spying then what can you do!
You call what I do spying, I call what you do disinterested neglect. Each to their own I guess. My way I protect my daughter best as I can from harm, you are someone there to babysit your grandkids so yours can study for their GCSEs
 

Cycling Dan

Cycle Crazy
My daughter had friends at her infant school whose teenage brothers/sisters regularly smoked drugs at home. when My daughter was allowed on facebook, buying drugs would be mentioned not infrequently by siblings of her old school friends.
Why have their siblings added on Facebook. Is that not odd, well I don't maybe others do (daughters perspective)
Also is this you searching for the information on the siblings via your network of motoring or was your daughter coming across it?
That is where the big and main difference is. If you found it by activlity searching for it that is different to your daughter innocently using Facebook to talk to friends and coming across it. Which is unlikely at best.
 

sazzaa

Guest
I wasn't trying to justify myself as anything. I do not have any reason to not to you or anyone else. You do have kids? Would you trust them to park your car, or change the wheel on your bike? no.. why not? I wouldn't as they don't have enough experience to know what is what. Same with life, back when your kid was a toddler would you let them go on a play day out of sight of you with a friend of a friend whom you've never met?
So why are yo so happy to expose them to that risk online?
Cyberbullying and cybergrooming happens because people allow their kid free-rein on the internet "trusting them" to go to their parents if there is a "problem".

The world is a scary place eh. Except, it's not really. Imagine growing up being scared of everything because of your crazy paranoid over-protective parents!! Like I said, your kids will not thank you in years to come. Unless they're in a mental institution being a terrified mess because they don't actually know any better...
 

Fnaar

Smutmaster General
Location
Thumberland
I did a short UK cycle tour last summer... my kids still jokingly refer to how I stayed with "strangers I met on the internet" which was true for my first 2 nights :thumbsup: (thanks in no small part on day 1 to members of this here very forum, who kindly allowed me toi kip in their spare room :smile:)
 

tadpole

Senior Member
Location
St George
The world is a scary place eh. Except, it's not really. Imagine growing up being scared of everything because of your crazy paranoid over-protective parents!! Like I said, your kids will not thank you in years to come. Unless they're in a mental institution being a terrified mess because they don't actually know any better...
There is a world of difference between " the world is a scary place" and Preventing a teenager from being exposed to the more grown up parts of the world.
 

tadpole

Senior Member
Location
St George
Why have their siblings added on Facebook. Is that not odd, well I don't maybe others do (daughters perspective)
Also is this you searching for the information on the siblings via your network of motoring or was your daughter coming across it?
That is where the big and main difference is. If you found it by activlity searching for it that is different to your daughter innocently using Facebook to talk to friends and coming across it. Which is unlikely at best.
Some kids with not a lot of Real world Friends will add all their Friends friends. and if siblings are added that is when thinks I mention happen.
 
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