The Retirement Thread

[welsh dragon]

Coooeeee. Last night the temp dropped to -1 and now it'd 8 deg.ll oh and raining.

Shopping day for us today.

Stay safe peeps

 

[Deleted member 1258]

In all seriousness though, the lifestyles of our retired friends are so very polarised in terms of their relationships, activities, outlook etc.

Many have simply run out of any zip and passion - for each other and their approach to life in general.

I know illness affects more people as they get older and, in the main, they can't do much about that.

But, we have friends who have simply given up on each other, no affection, no passion and in sexless relationships. Both parties desperate for something more. Together out of habit and the potential trauma of financial upheaval should they part ways.

And, on the other hand, we know couples who are in fantastic relationships who are having a cracking time together. Although less of these than the former though.

How sad in what should be their 'golden years'.

Its my Good Ladies health problems that brought us to a stop, I'm carer now rather than a husband, which is a shame, theres plenty going on around us that we could enjoy but the ladies lack of mobility means we can't join in with most of it, most frustrating, on the physical side of things, a few years ago my Good Lady told me "we're to old for this" and stopped it, I get very frustrated at times, on the other hand we have our family, children, grandchildren and grown up stepchildren, we're very close, and good friends, 40 years married next month and its been mostly good.

 

[Dirk]

Morning all

The holidays are over at last and we can get back to normal.
Off to see our estate agents this morning to see what is happening on the moving front. I'm hopeful we can get it all sorted by early February........we'll see.

 

[Paulus]

Good morning all.
A contrast of weather today. Late last night it was cold, clear and frosty.
This morning is cloudy, mild and rain is on it's way. There is a lovely red sky at the moment.
Sainsbury's have delivered the fortnightly order. I will have to get the bike out later for a bimble to the local grocers and butchers for some produce. I prefer to use them instead of the supermarkets.
Out with the dog soon as it is now getting light.

 

[ebikeerwidnes]

Your pedals are at two seperate heights*, or you have no right-hand pedal?

*At Bottom dead centre

Yes - I always keep them at different heights - generally when one is up the other is down


Oh - hang one - no - see what you mean - no both at the same length but when I got to the deepest point one was at the bottom - hence wet foot and the other was at the top and dry

 

[Dave7]

Morning all.
Our bl**dy deer was on form again. It started before midnight and was still at it 0500 this morning. Fortunately it moves around the park area a lot so the noise is not constant and we get broken but regular sleep.

 

[ebikeerwidnes]

Cheeky bugger. 2 actually. Greg's ones

So what did Gregg have?

 

[ebikeerwidnes]

Ok - the day when everything happens at the same time

for some reason we have the brother-i-law arriving to collect our old wardrobes for their new house - in a van

and on the same day daughter-in-law (if they ever bother to get married!) is having 2 sofas delivered that I volunteered to help with
on the same day
just got the delivery slot for the sofas - first thing - so same time as the van is coming for the wardrobes and the 2 places are 20 miles apart

in the meantime we are looking after the 2 grandsons - granddaughter is going out with her other Gram - to the dentist for $reasons

Oh - and we have a delivery coming but that is not massive so a neighbour could take it for us
but why all on the same bloomin day?????

 

[Dave7]

Its my Good Ladies health problems that brought us to a stop, I'm carer now rather than a husband, which is a shame, theres plenty going on around us that we could enjoy but the ladies lack of mobility means we can't join in with most of it, most frustrating, on the physical side of things, a few years ago my Good Lady told me "we're to old for this" and stopped it, I get very frustrated at times, on the other hand we have our family, children, grandchildren and grown up stepchildren, we're very close, and good friends, 40 years married next month and its been mostly good.

Same for us Dave. Married 54 years and until 3 years ago we were still "firing on all cylinders". Then I got Covid and now struggle to walk, even around the house. At the same time MrsDs spine collapsed and we now rely on a cleaner 🙁

 

[Dirk]

Morning all.
Our bl**dy deer was on form again. It started before midnight and was still at it 0500 this morning. Fortunately it moves around the park area a lot so the noise is not constant and we get broken but regular sleep.

Their barking is annoying, isn't it?
Not as unnerving as foxes screaming though. 😲

 

[Tenkaykev]

It's raining - again. Checked out the route of our regular Tuesday walking group and our route through the woods is a bit of a quagmire. That means sticking to the trailway. Currently on coffee number three. Speaking of coffee, we use about two 227g bags a week of our favourite blend as both Mrs Tenkaykev and I drink quite a lot. The price has been steadily rising over the past several months but we use the excellent " Trolley " app to keep tabs on the price in the various local supermarkets, and buy half a dozen bags at a time when it is on offer.

 

[ebikeerwidnes]

Their barking is annoying, isn't it?
Not as unnerving as foxes screaming though. 😲

Not as annoying as some seagulls when you have a baby in the house
some of them sound exactly like a baby crying

at silly o-clock in the morning when the baby has been awake all night and you have just nodded off!!!

one of the b****** nicked by pie one day - and then my ice cream (although that was later on at Llandudno when I lived there!

 

[Dave7]

one of the b****** nicked by pie one day - and then my ice cream (although that was later on at Llandudno when I lived there!

They will nick anything won't they. I used to enjoy fish n chips at the seaside but stopped doing that many years ago.
But you still see dozy plonkers throwing chips to them.

 

[numbnuts]

Its my Good Ladies health problems that brought us to a stop, I'm carer now rather than a husband, which is a shame, theres plenty going on around us that we could enjoy but the ladies lack of mobility means we can't join in with most of it, most frustrating, on the physical side of things, a few years ago my Good Lady told me "we're to old for this" and stopped it, I get very frustrated at times, on the other hand we have our family, children, grandchildren and grown up stepchildren, we're very close, and good friends, 40 years married next month and its been mostly good.

Been there and done that, except I was the son and not the husband, I had to put my life on hold for 7 years and it was very frustrating for me, so know what your going through.
My mother would not let social service get involved, but I did have a carer twice a day, other than that I had to do everything.
You say you have family around you well that's good, I had a sister who did sweet FA, just hang in there and when you have a chance to leave the house for a few hours do so, you need time for yourself (something I never did but found out later), but you do need it.
Take care Dave and good luck to the both of you

 

[Mo1959]

Stuck the shoes and jacket on to attempt a walk and realised within a few strides that it was bloody slippy underfoot so straight back in. Oh well, can’t be helped. I’m not risking falling.