This mortality thing.

[Levo-Lon]

Im 50 next week..time flies dont it..
if i get a "its terminal " i may pop off to dignitas as the shoot heads here wont pass the law.
live for today,i always have..when its over thats it

 

[Tin Pot]

A long while back I thought I was going to live forever. Now I'm sure that I won't.

I ponder a bit these days as I approach the 60 years old watershed on my impending demise. Not obsessively but the thought flits in and out of focus in the odd quiet moment.

Not in a miserable way and not through any real fear of death - not that I see that as something to relish with glee either. Although that could change of course.

I was just wondering how other people deal with something we all have to face at some time.

I get all the 'live every day as your last', 'do it today there might not be a tomorrow' etc stuff but ultimately there is a terminal moment waiting up the track for all of us.

For me, I feel a certain sadness. The days of hard toil, worrying about career and fretting over bills are long gone for me. I'm in a happy space but the thought that with a bit of luck I'm probably only around for 15-20 years at best, is a bit of a killjoy.

How do you deal with it?

Is it dealing with the fear, or dealing with what mortality means that is the problem?

 

[Venod]

Often discuss this with friends but not in a depressing way. usually ends up picking funeral music, thats life or so they say, at 63 I can still give the youngsters a run fo their money on the bike, there are older guys that are better than me I look to them for inspiration.

 

[welsh dragon]

Allegedly im going to die on Sunday May 14th 2045. Oh well, Sunday is a boring day and as I probably won't have anything else or better to do, I may as well pop my clogs,

 

[midlife]

Sunday October 13, 2047. Had to be a blooming 13th ......

Shaun

 

[Durian]

I'm well and truly on borrowed time according to that deathclock. They had me down as dying in 2011!!!

 

[TVC]

You're ok with the incest bit then?!?

Depends, if it's an either/or choice with morris dancing it could be tough.....

 

[Sara_H]

According to the death clock I'm going to live til I'm 92, even though I'm "slightly fat". Thanks, death clock.

 

[Lullabelle]

My colleague turned 40 last year and has now officially become old! She is a very negative person anyway and at time frustrates me with her 'at my age' attitude, I have to bite my tongue so many times during the day that I have just turned off the 'age' switch so any time she mentions it I ignore and get on with things. My boss in 62 and has more go in her than the 40 year old

 

[Vapin' Joe]

You're ok with the incest bit then?!?

If Miley Cyrus was my sister I could be tempted...

 

[midliferider]

I echo Drago's words.

I am NOT religious and don't follow any religion (although Buddhism, as a 'lifestyle is something I try to adapt to) but have a strong belief in an afterlife.

I've had two out of body experiences (note: not near death): once whilst meditating and once when I was totally blind drunk.

Hence Drago's post hit the nail on the head (although he may not share my view on a afterlife).

'I've long since come to terms with it. Just so long as it isn't painful and drawn out, then when it comes it comes. That's not to say I relish the prospect and I am gonna go kicking, screaming, biting and gouging if I can, but mentally I'm in the place where I'm not worrying about it.'

But, I'd just say that you should live and enjoy every day as much as you can.

I was born a Buddhist, meaning I was born to Buddhist parents, grew up in Buddhist household. During last few years, I have become more interested in understanding fundamentals of Buddhism, what is known as four noble truths. What I have learned is that it really does not matter what you call yourself. Buddhism does not ask you to make declaration, take a vow, attend a certain place for worship etc. Interestingly even the Buddhist monk say that people in the west who are atheists are more Buddhist than many who come to their temple. Drago's view here is very much in keeping with Buddhist way of thinking.

That is to say, he is not attached and come to realisation of the nature of life.

 

[midliferider]

I'm 42 and have similar thoughts. I think my "near death experience" three years ago started it for me.

As a nurse dealing with death and dying has been a part of everyday working life (well, not everyday, but you get my point) but it was always something that happened to other people. I suddenly had to face up to the reality that I'm not immortal and that I was already at least halfway through!

Watching the AP's (aged parents) getting more and more doddery then makes me realise that even though I've only got 30ish years left, the time left to really enjoy doing what I enjoy doing now is even shorter than that.

I'm not religious, I don't believe in an afterlife. Death = nothing as far as I'm concerned. So can't even reassure myself with that!

Life is good, I've long since come to the realisation that there's no point in regrets, that life is for living and to make the most of it. And it may well be because life is so good that I often get a little knot of anxiety in my tummy when I allow myself to think about it all coming to an end and there's nothing I can do about it!

We all feel like that sometimes. But if we all understand that this feeling of anxiety interferes with our present happiness, it will help us to be happier, to enjoy what we have now without indulging or attached to it. I know it is easier said than done. I trying my best.

 

[Mrs M]

May 23 2056
I'd be 90, had hoped to reach 100

 

[Sara_H]

May 23 2056
I'd be 90, had hoped to reach 100

I was aiming for at least 100. I feel cheated of my last 8 years!

 

[midliferider]

[QUOTE 3947928, member: 76"]Well everyone here is wondering about when the end will come, why don't we all find exactly.............

http://www.deathclock.cc/

For me it's Tuesday, March 11, 2059, I wonder if that will be am or pm, as I was hoping to go the cinema. I may book an early showing just in case....[/QUOTE]

Mine is 2049.
Just what my horoscope predicted so many years ago.