Touchy feely people.

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colly

Re member eR
Location
Leeds
Friday pm I called to see a woman who I was recommended to.
A lovely lady who was most welcoming, nice friendly manner and very chatty. I was with her for maybe 20 to 25 mins maximum.

In that time though she had:
Touched my wrist
Held onto my hand (twice)
Held her hand on my upper arm for an extended period of time
Leaned into me, upper body to upper body
Put her hand on my knee
Put her arms right around me
Held my hand and had the other very low down in the small of my back (actually quite a bit lower than that)

Now this isn't by way of complaint because to begin with she was very attractive and it's kind of flattering to get such attention from an attractive woman. Also, her husband was present or at least close by the whole time so I didn't feel under any kind of threat.

It got me thinking though that had I been a woman facing a similarly over attentive man I'm sure I would have been either outraged or creeped out.
Supposing it had been another bloke touching and petting me like that? I'm not certain I would be looking forward to doing work for them.
 

Nearly there

Veteran
Location
Cumbria
Sounds like you were well in there ;) If someone invades your personal space and you don't like it you can just step back a bit and hopefully they get the message
 

BLUE(UK)

Active Member
Maybe they were trying to get you to do the work for free hence the touchy feely benefit in kind as the husband looks on sort of agreement.

I'm not the touchy feely sort to be fair.
 

Smurfy

Naturist Smurf
Also, her husband was present or at least close by the whole time

This might sound a bit far fetched, but have you considered the possibility that you were an unwitting/unwilling participant in the early stages of a tradesman-boffs-the-wife fantasy, possibly with an in-lieu of payment component? It's not my cup of tea, but apparently some men are really into the whole cuckold thing. Another possibility is that she was deliberately trying to make her husband jealous for some reason, and they had a blazing row after you left (possibly followed by some equally hot post-row boffing). Anyway, I'd say what you experienced was a long way short of normal, but I'm getting the feeling that she has form for this, and it isn't her first go/attempt!
 

Archie_tect

De Skieven Architek... aka Penfold + Horace
Location
Northumberland
I didn't know you'd met the Bishop, Colly? Apparently he met his wife at a fancy dress party.
 

BigonaBianchi

Yes I can, Yes I am, Yes I did...Repeat.
It's strange how women seem to assume it's ok to touch a guy
When if the boot was on the other foot they may not be so familier

Also.why do some women assume a guy will automatically
Allow her to have sex with.him....not all guys are after just one thing girls.

Genuine expressions of affection are ok...but hidden agendas and
Touching without permission is not.
 

Arch

Married to Night Train
Location
Salford, UK
It's strange how women seem to assume it's ok to touch a guy
When if the boot was on the other foot they may not be so familier

Also.why do some women assume a guy will automatically
Allow her to have sex with.him....not all guys are after just one thing girls.

Genuine expressions of affection are ok...but hidden agendas and
Touching without permission is not.


All that works the other way round too...

The OP does sound odd. Touching a hand, or laying a hand on someone's back, maybe, but that all sounds way too much, beyond the average 'touchy feely' type person.

I'd run a mile....
 

rusky

CC Addict
Location
Hove
Re-reading the OP, it sounds very similar to my ex-boss. She was very touchy feely. I went to a seminar with her a a colleague & she was all hands as usual. Someone from another company asked my colleague what the deal was between the two of us. I suppose from an outsiders POV, we were a couple!
 

Night Train

Maker of Things
I hate being touched by anyone who isn't my sexual partner, or a medical/therapy person touching me with my permission.
However, I will accept a hug from people who are special to me as close friends or 'family' members.

I, too, find that women more often then men, find it appropriate to touch me, or get physically too close, without my permission.
 
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colly

colly

Re member eR
Location
Leeds
The context was simply me calling to offer a price for some work she wanted doing. I was recommended to her by a friend and so as long as the price was pretty much in the region she expected I guess it was a better than even chance I would get the work. I have been in situations where people patronise so as to get a better price on the work and it really didn't feel like that to me. If that was the aim then it didn't work. ^_^ I always try to charge what I feel it the right price for the job and she didn't quibble at all.
I just think it was how she was. To be honest I wasn't offended in the least nor even uncomfortable but of the instances it's happened to me over the years this would rank as being exceptional.

Perhaps I am just getting more beautiful and magnetic as I get older. :blush:
 

Oldspice

Senior Member
Some people are just touchy feely as part of there natural behaviour. Could be a case of reading to much into something.
 
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