Training on three hours a week... according to the wife

[winjim]

I am taking Pam shopping this morning as it is easier and more fun if we do it together, after that we may get a ride in on the bikes if this wind drops a bit. At this moment I am answering business emails whilst Pam tidies up and does household things.

My wife is hopefully getting a bit of sleep after looking after / feeding the toddler all night. I'll take her a cup of tea at seven and then all hell will break loose as we get the kids ready and try to get to the childminder on time.

The concept of 'going for a bike ride' is so far detached from my reality it's laughable.

 

[screenman]

My wife is hopefully getting a bit of sleep after looking after / feeding the toddler all night. I'll take her a cup of tea at seven and then all hell will break loose as we get the kids ready and try to get to the childminder on time.

The concept of 'going for a bike ride' is so far detached from my reality it's laughable.

You do the cycling when the kids are older, I have had many a break in my 53 years of being what I consider a cyclist.

 

[winjim]

You do the cycling when the kids are older, I have had many a break in my 53 years of being what I consider a cyclist.

Yes, I'm sure things will get less hectic, the kids are still very young. And I'm not complaining, just explaining how it is.

 

[T.M.H.N.E.T]

She has a point. Nows the time to invest in a smart trainer setup, do a few races on zwift and your 6hrs is as good as halved.

Everyone wins

 

[screenman]

Yes, I'm sure things will get less hectic, the kids are still very young. And I'm not complaining, just explaining how it is.

I guess a lot of us have been there, we had kids at home for 43 years due to the spread of their ages, I still managed to race through a lot of them but have always made sure if the importance of quality time together, so many guys are not good at this, even more so in Lincolnshire we have found than the people we know down south.

 

[Alien8]

Dear CycleChat,

I'll typically be out on the bike(s) 15hrs or so a week year-round ... and the wife's not complaining.

Should I be worried about the state of my marriage?

 

[sheddy]

Just tell the misses that one has to keep fit in order to perform well in the bedroom department.

 

[winjim]

Dear CycleChat,

I'll typically be out on the bike(s) 15hrs or so a week year-round ... and the wife's not complaining.

Should I be worried about the state of my marriage?

No, but if you've got time for 15hrs cycling, you've got time to come and look after my kids for an afternoon...

 

[cougie uk]

I think the mistake was to stop cycling so your wife sees any time cycling as time taken away from her. She's not seen the 20 hour training weeks so saying you've cut down won't help.

What's the government advice on exercise to stay healthy ? Push that. We all know people who have popped their clogs way before their time.

Good luck.

 

[screenman]

Dear CycleChat,

I'll typically be out on the bike(s) 15hrs or so a week year-round ... and the wife's not complaining.

Should I be worried about the state of my marriage?

Only you and her will know that one.

 

[screenman]

I think the mistake was to stop cycling so your wife sees any time cycling as time taken away from her. She's not seen the 20 hour training weeks so saying you've cut down won't help.

What's the government advice on exercise to stay healthy ? Push that. We all know people who have popped their clogs way before their time.

Good luck.

Would it not be better to just dedicate more time to your favourite thing, your wife?

NHS advice is do at least 150 minutes of moderate intensity activity a week or 75 minutes of vigorous intensity activity a week. I guess some of that could even be bedroom activity.

 

[fossyant]

You've got to do it smart when in a relationship (same house) and even more so when kids are around. Yes, buggering off for 4-5 hours at a weekend is selfish. I had a period where I wasn't riding much as the kids were young. Can you cycle commute - that's the winner. If it's a long way, then maybe cycle on a couple of days. Two of my jobs were around 30 miles away. Even at a good pace the journey took about an hour 45 on the bike each way. Add in showering, it was a very long day, so I'd only do it occasionally. Ideal distance is about 10-15 miles each way - far quicker than the car usually, and your training is done.

I'm WFH so try and do a home to home commute during lunch !

 

[ianrauk]

That is nothing like my marriage at all.

The same, and it's sad to hear the problems others have.

 

[steveindenmark]

I have been with Jannie for 15 years. We have never raised our voices.
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Cycling is not the problem in your relationship. Trust me.

 

[plastic_cyclist]

Golf, Cycling and Football = single person sports,

Dear CycleChat,

I'll typically be out on the bike(s) 15hrs or so a week year-round ... and the wife's not complaining.

Should I be worried about the state of my marriage?

Have you checked her phone