What is your relationship like?

[Kirstie]

Been married 10 years now and we are the typical old married couple always whinging and putting up with each other

TBH wife has said if i do not get help she will move out .
The Stress of over a year of short time work has left us on the brink of bankruptcy with no relief till August next year .The constant worry of it all has made me very irritable and short tempered and what does she do ? instead of support i get ultimatums.

It just means that she's stressed out and feels powerless too. The challenge is to rise above it. And it is one almighty challenge. I speak as one who knows...

 

[ianrauk]

Have been with 'er indoors for 13 years married for 10. And I don't know how we get on but we do. We are complete polar opposites in almost every way.
Movies
Music
food
Hobbies
Friends
Holidays (we have our own separate holidays each year and also one together. I go traveling, she loves beach holidays)
She hates very short hair, I shave my head
She hates tattoo's, I am covered
Apart from all the above we are total soul mates. I think in all the years we have been together I can honestly say we have never had a serious argument. In fact I am hard pressed to think of the last time we did argue at all.
She looks after me and puts up with a lot as I know I can be a handful, and for that I love her more then words can say.

 

[jonny jeez]

Have been with 'er indoors for 13 years married for 10. And I don't know how we get on but we do. We are complete polar opposites in almost every way.
Movies
Music
food
Hobbies
Friends
Holidays (we have our own separate holidays each year and also one together. I go traveling, she loves beach holidays)
She hates very short hair, I shave my head
She hates tattoo's, I am covered
Apart from all the above we are total soul mates. I think in all the years we have been together I can honestly say we have never had a serious argument. In fact I am hard pressed to think of the last time we did argue at all.
She looks after me and puts up with a lot as I know I can be a handful, and for that I love her more then words can say.

Beautiful

 

[Night Train]

I am single at the moment and no longer looking.
There's this woman who also thinks she is single.
However, when we are together sometimes she thinks she is still in a relationship with me. And then sometimes she is adamant she is not.
I don't mind either way and would be quite happy in a relationship with her again. I just wish she'd make her mind up.

She is like a cat with a door. If she is in she wants out, if she is out she wants in.

I just spend time with her as a friend, getting on with my own life, and will probably continue to do so which ever way she makes her mind up.
If she continues to not make her mind up, and actively messing me about over it, she may just mess me about to the point of losing me as a friend.

 

[Cathryn]

Girls can be a bit contrary, Night Train.

I honestly believe I'm married to the loveliest bloke on the planet. He's my best friend, the person I get on better with than anyone else I've ever met. He has a good heart. He's damn handsome. He's good at all the stuff I'm crap at and is crap at all the stuff I'm good at. He's turned out to be an awesome dad. He's the best husband a girl could ask for. I'm so flipping lucky I could cry. He even likes cycling.

Sometimes it's good to think about what you've got and pay tribute, isn't it.

 

[Bayerd]

One question; what do you do if you know for a fact that the other person is just plain wrong?

The middle ground is not always right.

My first marriage had this element to it, she would plain make things up to try to strenghthen her point of view. She's a pathalogical liar who would sometimes believe the lies she'd told. It got very frustrating more than anything, took a lot of time and heartache to realise that it was never going to end or get better and that leaving was the only option.

Happily I'm now remarried, we've been together for about 4 1/2 years married for 1 1/2. This time it's very much like the OP described. We don't really argue, both allow each other to to do what the want to do individually, and make sure there's also time for us as well. Sometimes we chatter for hours, sometimes not, but I never (and I'm sure she doesn't either) feel pressurised to talk just so there isn't silence. Sure there's things that niggle us about the other, but then everybody has faults so I always remember that the pluses far outweigh any minuses I might perceive there to be.

I think that having bad experiences when younger (which we both had) helped us get certain expectations out in the open very early on of what we wanted from a relationship. Luckily I think we both want the same thing, each other!

 

[Night Train]

Girls can be a bit contrary, Night Train.

I honestly believe I'm married to the loveliest bloke on the planet. He's my best friend, the person I get on better with than anyone else I've ever met. He has a good heart. He's damn handsome. He's good at all the stuff I'm crap at and is crap at all the stuff I'm good at. He's turned out to be an awesome dad. He's the best husband a girl could ask for. I'm so flipping lucky I could cry. He even likes cycling.

Sometimes it's good to think about what you've got and pay tribute, isn't it.

Can't they just!

This woman is sorts like the way you describe your husband except, to be honest, she isn't that handsome, just an ordinary, slightly overweight almost 50 working mum. But I like her.

I'm glad you are happy with yours.

 

[HobbesChoice]

What a great idea...

I know a couple of decent single 30 something chaps that might be happy to do some chatting up


This an another relationship related thread have really got me thinking.

Man its tough out there!

Ooh, this sounds very intriguing, and as ever, little plans start to snowball.

If your male, single, 30 something friends would like to meet some very nice 30 something females then we should definitely speak about this in the New Year, if you don't mind?

Thank you!

 

[HobbesChoice]

Yup, that's pretty much it.

I've been with Mrs Jeez for nearly a quarter of a century (we met when we were 15 years old and are still only young-uns) and that is pretty much the summary of our life.

dont expect too much more, that stuff is for hollywood, the real stuff is what you described...what is it that John Lennon said..."life is what happens while you're making plans"

A great explanation of a brilliant sounding relationship. I especially love the fact you've known each other since the age of 15.

My whole family all met their spouses when they were very young, with the obvious exception of me (and I am seen as the "disappointing" black sheep of the family because of it). I'm just not great in relationships. Friendships I have sorted but throw some lust and emotion in and my head short circuits!!!

 

[XmisterIS]

We have a lot of sex, therefore the relationship is good

 

[ianrauk]

Not married then..

We have a lot of sex, therefore the relationship is good

 

[magnatom]

Mrs Magnatom and I have been married 8 years (been together 11). Of course we have our disagreements, but we tend not to argue. We just stop talking for about 24 hours. Then, as always, I have to be the one who starts talking again! They are never anything serious and are far, FAR outweighed by all the good times.

We've had a very stressful few months recently, a family death, buying/selling/moving house, getting ready for child number 3..... However, through all of that as well as loving each other (at least I hope she does) we are still also the bests friends.

Like some other posters we compliment each other, i.e. what she is good at I am bad vice-versa. I can't really ask for more.

 

[XmisterIS]

Not married then..

Perish the thought!

 

[postman]

I can be a numpty sometimes.And i get a little down now and then .Spesh these long dark nights .

 

[Hilldodger]

I have a secret relationship with Julitte Binoche. It's soooo secret that even she doesn't know about it. Still, at least we get on well and have never had a cross word.