Am i being selfish ?

[defy-one]

Been there with my MIL
Said to her with wife in the room that i would like a chance to go out with my wife if she would stay at home and look after kids.
Got the silent treatment from the Mrs on the way out from both women,but after the meal - wifey said i was right.
MIL knows where the barriers are now and we have a good relationship

 

[MontyVeda]

crikey this marriage lark sounds like a right parp.

 

[beastie]

The weather is supposed to be good at the weekend, so get up REALLY early, ie sunrise and go out anyway. Do your round (ok you can't go out with the club, but a RIDE IS A RIDE ), and then get back for lunch with her, everyone wins. Personally, if my MIL wanted to come on a private dinner for my anniversary, I'd just make it VERY clear that she was not welcome and that it was private.

I thought that was the point of taking the wife out on your anniversary. Nice meal, a few drinks and then a 5 hour epic with lots of up and down.

:-)

 

[cyberknight]

I thought that was the point of taking the wife out on your anniversary. Nice meal, a few drinks and then a 5 hour epic with lots of up and down.

:-)

LOL
hardly any up and down these days with a 5 year old and a 6 month old we are either to knackered and the eldest have shagdar and plays up/stays awake etc .

I have siad from the outset that i was happy enough to do my own thing or even give it a miss but i was always the one giving a miss for everyone elses benefit .

 

[Boris Bajic]

Sunday morning.... My wife takes a call while still half asleep.

My mother-in-law is coming for lunch. Excellent.

Knowing that I haven't really kept up with hedging this year, she is bringing a mighty hedge trimmer (she is a retired farmer).

This is bad. It will look bad to have a woman in her seventies help with my hedges. I know this. She may know this too.

I just gave younger (non-Church-going) son a message:

1. Grandmother is coming for lunch. "Hurrah!" (He adores her).
2. You and I have about three hours to finish all the hedges, inside and out, and sweep and clear all the trimmings. "Boo!"

Although much of the work is done, much remains. We have an absurd quantity of hedging in what looks quite a modestly-sized garden.

In a quiet moment of reflection I will see that this is the sort of supportive relationship with a mother-in-law that one ought to crave. I'm slightly iffy about the feeling that my hedges are somehow being judged according to the standards of others... but I just love the fact that she'll come over with a monster of a hedge trimmer and give me a hand.

Pride first... I need to get those wellies on and get stuck in before she gets here.