Daughter gone worries

[Accy cyclist]

What a depressing day! My daughter and her boyfriend are off soon on a holiday to Tenerife. Being a worrier i'm not looking forward to her being miles from home for 10 days. Sh'e quite sensible and her boyfriend is from there so he speaks Spanish fluently and has a large family there. However i'll be worried about her doing daft teenager on holiday things like getting drunk and ending up where you shouldn't.It's the first time she's left home so it'll be a bit odd her not being here.
Anyone else on here gone through the same thing?

 

[Levo-Lon]

Shes with a boyfreind and not a group of stupid english drunk girls..
he lives there too..perfect...dont worry at all bud she will have a lovely time..nice island is tenneriffe..

 

[Chromatic]

I would imagine that since her boyfriend's family are there she'd not want to to do anything remotely like the 'pissed up Brit abroad' thing, quite the opposite in fact.
I reckon you're worrying about nothing.

 

[Bazzer]

Is there an extradition arrangement with Teneriffe? Expect her to be kidnapped by the extended family and she experiences Stockholm syndrome.

Seriously, as others have said, stop worrying. Also much better than being with a group of girls all out for a good time and getting hammered.
She's growing up. - Not always easy for Dads to accept

 

[Cheddar George]

It all sounds good to me, she must be really excited.

I would tell you there is nothing to worry about, but if you are a natural worrier then nothing will stop you.

 

[numbnuts]

They all have to leave the nest sometime

 

[Accy cyclist]

Thanks for the positive posts so far. It doesn't help with me sat here being off work due to car breakdown troubles. I'll be happier when she phones tonight to say she's arrived safely. She's a sensible girl,i don't expect her to do the pissed up Brits abroad thing but i just worry about almost any disaster happening so i suppose i wont be able to relax till she gets home.

 

[shouldbeinbed]

Bad news makes the media, millions of people having an uneventful time doesn't, they have to spread their wings sometime. I'm off in a few minutes to the airport formerly known as Ringway to pick my lad up after a fortnight in Spain with his GF and a couple of pals. the worst problem he's encountered is sunburn.

 

[User10119]

I'm working on the theory that If you let them do stuff independently and actively teach them how to do so (safely) then they're much better prepared for when they _have_ to do stuff. It worked for me as a kid, anyway. Travelled about on buses within about 20 miles from about 11 or 12, and trains for local-ish day trips/inter-city visits to relatives from about 14, I think - I certainly remember doing the train York to Newcastle, metro to haymarket, bus to Blyth to visit my Granny at 14 with a school friend, but might have done it earlier. Left with older sisters to fend for ourselves fairly regularly from the age of about 13, since I had a part-time job so couldn't go on family weekends. There were a lot of parties and unsupervised sleepovers at whoevers-parents-were-away from about 15.... First ever trip abroad was the school French exchange at 13, followed by repeating that at 14 and 15. Going away for weekends visiting mates in far distant places like That LonDon or Shropshire from about 16. Went on holiday to Wales with a bunch of mates and one big sister when we 15/16 and big sis 18. Buggered off to live in the south of France for about four months when I was 19. I think it probably helped that I had a fairly big group of thoroughly decent friends and my mum was confident in us all looking out for and after each other.

I'm a little bit cautious with the EldestCub, since his Aspergers can make some situations atypically challenging for him, but he's actually getting pretty adept at life for a just-teen, on the whole. The SmallestCub (nearly 8) has declared that he is never going to leave anyway...

 

[Levo-Lon]

If she's spending all her time at Veronica's id be a bit worried..but i survived it and spent 500 quid in a week on beer..i did eat some chips one day tho..happy days

 

[helston90]

*Tongue in cheek*
I think you're right to worry- I have a plan, I'll take her place, I'll scope out the family/ the area/ likely day and night time entertainment and the food and drink and she can come here to do a dead end job with lame pay with very limited chance of dangerous or exciting happening?

 

[Globalti]

I sympathise; we worry about our 16 y.o. son when he nips up the street. I don't think instant communications have done anything at all to dispel these kinds of worries.

If she's with a big Spanish family she will be fine, possibly even a little over-protected.

 

[rich p]

My daughter and her best friend went to Magaluf at the tender age of 15. Feck knows what became of her.

 

[Fnaar]

If she's staying with his family, and if they're a typical Spanish (or Tenerife-ian) family, she'll be absolutely safe, and will be welcomed into the heart of a group of happy, confident people who love life and live it like it should be lived

(I'm a huge Hispanophile... fantastic country, marvellous attitude to life)

 

[User33236]

Your daughter has a boyfriend. Isn't that worry enough?