Divorce

[Brandane]

Do I have to put my nursey hat on?

Now if that doesn't cheer him up then things are worse than we thought!

 

[ScotiaLass]

Now if that doesn't cheer him up then things are worse than we thought!

I'll even get the matching halloween costume on....
I do aim to please

 

[MarkF]

I have two sets of friends that split last year, one fairly amicably (from the outside at least), and they still see each other when we are as a group. Both have moved on and started new lives. One of them joined a group for meeting people (just to be active and get out of the house), which always seems to have activities and walks going on. The other set is far from amicable and from the limited stuff I've seen you don't want to go down that route..

That's me and summerdays who have watched 2 friends react in opposite ways, you have to get "out there", riding, joining groups, a night class or something, for every you there is a woman going through the same. You are focusing on the money, many people leave with nothing, or a financial deficit, but their legs don't fall off, £60k is a fortune to take into new relationship.

Your "kids" are grown men, if your "providing" is over then they've had a good run. I don't see anything badly wrong with going crackers for a few days, a little grieving, but set date to move on, one next week for sure. Please don't try to pursuade her to stay in the relationship, you'll regret it badly later. Good luck.

 

[surfdude]

on a plus side all those women you looked at and thought i would you now can . that's how a mate of mine reflected on his split from his wife a year on and did very often

 

[Broughtonblue]

Update:
Eldest lad told, made her tell him in front of me. My parents told. Going to drive over and tell my other son this evening after the big match. Estate agents coming Tuesday to value house, docs tomorrow, just solicitors to sort

 

[Mrs M]

Well done

 

[colly]

Make plans BB. Bugger the rest, do what YOU want to do.

 

[TVC]

Good. Now make sure you look after your physical health, nobody wants an intervention from Nurse Scotia.

 

[Vapin' Joe]

Update:
Eldest lad told, made her tell him in front of me. My parents told. Going to drive over and tell my other son this evening after the big match. Estate agents coming Tuesday to value house, docs tomorrow, just solicitors to sort

At least you're beginning to take control of the situation, which is what you need to do. Start to try and think positive, there is nothing you can do about the breakup but you are still fairly young and starting over with a sixty grand windfall in your pocket and no worries about the CSA on your back. Grim as it may seem, in divorce terms you are in a far better place than many people who are going through the same thing.

 

[Geoff Crowther]

Update:
Eldest lad told, made her tell him in front of me. My parents told. Going to drive over and tell my other son this evening after the big match. Estate agents coming Tuesday to value house, docs tomorrow, just solicitors to sort

Hey good for you mate. Well done for taking some control back!

 

[Saluki]

Update:
Eldest lad told, made her tell him in front of me. My parents told. Going to drive over and tell my other son this evening after the big match. Estate agents coming Tuesday to value house, docs tomorrow, just solicitors to sort

Well done. Now give yourself a big pat on the back and a non-alcohol treat. Cake works

 

[DCLane]

Update:
Eldest lad told, made her tell him in front of me. My parents told. Going to drive over and tell my other son this evening after the big match. Estate agents coming Tuesday to value house, docs tomorrow, just solicitors to sort

Well done . You'll either feel relieved or dreadful. Or both.

Either way, you've done the right thing not drinking the vodka and instead dealing with the situation.

My suggestion now: grab a bite to eat, even if you're not hungry, hop on the bike and get some fresh air to clear your head.

 

[summerdays]

Well done, you're not in control of the situation but you're not sitting down and letting it push you around, any way it wants!

Have you eaten and got some fresh air yet? At least you won't have to pretend as much in front of your son, and he will understand why you are not your normal self!

 

[shouldbeinbed]

Update:
Eldest lad told, made her tell him in front of me. My parents told. Going to drive over and tell my other son this evening after the big match. Estate agents coming Tuesday to value house, docs tomorrow, just solicitors to sort

Good man.

 

[Levo-Lon]

Good man..