I had a gf that I was with until recently that claimed to quite like cycling and walking (things I do a lot in a novice/social but regular sort of way). We went on two bike rides and one walk in the last year. She hated it when I went out on 2hr cycles on my own, especially in the winter some of it she was worried about some calamity happening and some just plain not understanding. I don't think these people necessarily don't like cycling/exercise but how it relates into ones relationship. I got dumped for someone dubbed a "fitness freak" and this leads me to conclude that there was some unknown reason why she didn't like cycling/walking with me.
Does anyone have a partner . . .
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Joe24
More serious cyclist than Bonj
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Joe said:
Picture messege is better, which nice dancing girls in the bck ground of the picture.
papercorn2000
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Dayvo said:Now, how do I go about telling her?
You could hop out the back Jack...
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Dayvo
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Nice one, Maggot!
Where would I be without this kind of counselling?
Where would I be without this kind of counselling?
papercorn2000
Senior Member
fairy said:
There you go Dayvo, she's single, relatively intelligent, solvent(ish), presentable and she likes bikes. I'll leave the rest to you mate.
No don't thank me now.
Cathryn
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You could try sitting down and having a chat?
Dayvo said:
Sounds to me that this isn't really about cycling. You're planning to be away for 3-4 months this winter and then 3 months next autumn. Leaving aside the fact that you haven't even told her about your US trip, being apart so much is not really a basis for a long term relationship.
My partner isn't into long cycle rides, but there are plenty of other things we enjoy doing together. As a result it is never an issue if I want to go off cycling.
I think you need to be honest with yourself and her about what you want out of the relationship - or else end it nicely.
papercorn2000
Senior Member
Cathryn said:
Typical bloody woman!
Cathryn
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I know. I felt like my Mum when I posted that!
Does feel the fairest way of dealing with it. Breaking up with someone isn't a bad thing in itself but it has to be done properly!!!
Sermon over.
Does feel the fairest way of dealing with it. Breaking up with someone isn't a bad thing in itself but it has to be done properly!!!
Sermon over.
Fab Foodie
hanging-on in quiet desperation ...
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User76 said:Be careful though, it's all about timing. Remember you have a few weeks left in Sweden, and so will probably need someone to shag in that time. Your best bet is to keep her sweet, then never go back, it'll probably cost you a few international texts, but she'll get the message when they start to dry up. Leave it til christmas day, then text her a "wrong message" ie, "I'll be there in 10 minutes Sylvia" job done, completely painlesss
You're not my former colleague Rob are you?
papercorn2000
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Cathryn said:
Sorry,nothing personal meant.
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Dayvo
just passin' through
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Dannyg said:
You're right! Before I met her I had planned on going away this winter anyway, regardless. I have even applied to work a season in Norway next year as there is no guarantee my job will be available. 'Whose life is it, anyway?'
I work from mid-March until mid-November and I've only had two weeks off, and work two weekends out of three, getting up at 4:00 AM - and still waking at that time when not working.
Stockholm in the winter is grey, gloomy, cold and wet. Outdoor activities are non-existent and pubs and nightclubs have never been my scene. Hence my need to escape somewhere hot and sunny during the winter months; it doesn't help having SAD, but knowing I have somewhere to go eases/eliminates my mood swings.
Some people need drink, drugs etc. to cope with things, I just need the freedom to find the right environment. A long ride gives me that feeling of freedom and independence I had when I bummed around pretty much constantly when I was in my 20s.
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Dayvo
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papercorn2000 said:
I'll thank you later!
So, fairy! Fancy a ride round the States next winter? North West to Key West? 10-12 weeks?
papercorn2000
Senior Member
Brings a tear to a glass eye.
right, i'm gonna be a bit harsh now, but having had my heart severely broken recently ...
DON'T BE SUCH A SPINELESS TW@T!!! Stop using her, be a man and tell her you don't think you are compatible and it's over.
There is NO RIGHT TIME. just go round there now and tell her. and don't phone her first to tell her you need to talk, or you will end up telling her over the phone which is spineless and even if you don't, she will be upset before you get there because she will suss you out and will be all worked up.
the longer you leave it the worse it will be for both of you.
DON'T BE SUCH A SPINELESS TW@T!!! Stop using her, be a man and tell her you don't think you are compatible and it's over.
There is NO RIGHT TIME. just go round there now and tell her. and don't phone her first to tell her you need to talk, or you will end up telling her over the phone which is spineless and even if you don't, she will be upset before you get there because she will suss you out and will be all worked up.
the longer you leave it the worse it will be for both of you.
