Encouraged to join Strava.But now a problem.

[JoeyB]

You are Francois Hollonde, you can't fool me.

You are tired of the loyal older model and you want to abandon her for a racier model for the testosterone boost the you hope will cure your erectile dysfuntion and boost your rankings in the 'babe magnet' league albeit the 'Heckmondwike occasional ride' league and not the 'cat 1 three times a morning' league.

Image isn't everything and repaying loyalty with not so clandestine dalliances as you have found, leads to self deception, mockery and delusions of adequacy.

Forget what actions others advise you to take other than consider what your companionship and friendship mean to your older model and ask yourself are the delusory gains of a flashier model really worth having?

Wow, I think he just wants to ride faster without stopping?

 

[vernon]

Wow, I think he just wants to ride faster without stopping?

Then he should take viagra.

 

[SteCenturion]

Hi postie.
Got to go with @coffeejo & can't really add much to it (look at the likes it received).
Tact & diplomacy (although not my forte' at all) might be yours though.

Sounds like he is & has been a good friend to you & so I am sure he will understand a little drop in mileage & frequency of your jolly boys outings.

Also you might drop off your pace a little more for him if this is possible so that you don't have to stop so often.

You will work it out between you both I am sure.

I think that's all your bases covered really.

Best of luck with it though.

 

[Bobby Mhor]

Personally I'd keep falling back and not leave him out. The others if they keep wanting to push on? let them go..
I'm just in my 60s and do a bit of hillwalking occasionally with family and friends who are much nippier up the hills than I am and have been left behind before, my son 'laughs' at me but he does pace with me. I do prefer my own company on the hills, my pace and my route.
Keep cycling with the others but I'm sure I'd rather be cycling with a good pal at whatever speed.
If you want a faster trip, go yourself or occasionally with the speedier group.
I'm sure yer mate will appreciate you keeping with him
Look at my sig, I do Strava, see any KOMs? no I just use it for pacing my old erse

 

[Pat "5mph"]

@coffeejo is spot on: I would not even mention any issues to your older friend (he must know himself), jut make time for less challenging rides and enjoy the company!

 

[roadrash]

Talk to him about it and ask yourself how you would feel if the positions were reversed. In ten years time when you look back, what memories will you cherish more? The times you spent with your friend - or getting on the Strava leaderboard?

Sounds to me like a compromise is required. If his fitness is in decline, maybe the longer distances aren't a good idea for him but there's no reason why you can't do shorter rides with him to enjoy his company and go out on a different day with your fitter mates to push yourself.

^^^^^^^here speaks a wise woman ^^^^^^^^