Yes, true. It's a possibility. Some people don't do texting. I dunno though, I don't get that feeling here.
Friend who disappeared has been found, but he doesn't seem too keen on meeting up
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Yes, true. It's a possibility. Some people don't do texting. I dunno though, I don't get that feeling here.
Hacienda71
Mancunian in self imposed exile in leafy Cheshire
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I would send him a text if you are going to meet up with your other mate letting him know when and where. If he doesn't respond or turn up then draw a line under it. If you look back in life at people who have been friends but aren't any more there is normally a reason be it change in job, location, leaving school or college etc. If they are a really good friend worth worrying about they will probably have stayed in touch.
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Accy cyclist
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Fair point. I haven't contacted him via text or Facebook etc before as these things didn't exist 20 years ago.
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Accy cyclist
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Yes, he could've contacted me in those 20 years. He knew where I lived during most of that time. He'll also have seen my Facebook page if he was looking for it. Do you know, I'm beginning to dislike him already and we haven't even met up yet!!
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Accy cyclist
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Why did he reply to my first text message though? Wouldn't he have just not replied if he wasn't interested? 🤔
swee'pea99
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I hate the daffodil and I've never even met him.Yes, he could've contacted me in those 20 years. He knew where I lived during most of that time. He'll also have seen my Facebook page if he was looking for it. Do you know, I'm beginning to dislike him already and we haven't even met up yet!!
Electric_Andy
Heavy Metal Fan
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- Plymouth
I've had a lot of interactions like that, but face to face. Blokes I went to school with and not seen for 25 years, bumped into them in another town or soemthing, went up and said "Hi Jon, remember me?" and they reply "oh yeah" and walk off! And these were guys that I was fairly good friends with.
Don't take it personally, I don't know if it's a memory thing or a personality thing, but I remember everything from school (names, faces, what we used to play at playtime) yet some people I meet remember virtually nothing. All you can do is reach out, and if it's not taken up then leave it. Also remember that some people who were nice 30+ years ago are not nice now. Sad but true
Don't take it personally, I don't know if it's a memory thing or a personality thing, but I remember everything from school (names, faces, what we used to play at playtime) yet some people I meet remember virtually nothing. All you can do is reach out, and if it's not taken up then leave it. Also remember that some people who were nice 30+ years ago are not nice now. Sad but true
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Accy cyclist
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I must say, him telling me he'd been to watch The England football team play in San Marino made me think 'do I want to interact with someone who watches ENGURLAND'? Flogging a dead horse springs to mind!
And he watches Leeds United home and away!
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Ming the Merciless
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The past is often a foreign land best left in the memories
raleighnut
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Personally I hate texting, hurts my thumbs and I find it so frustrating
give me a keyboard any day
give me a keyboard any day
This might sound a bit blunt, and isn't meant as a criticism of you, but just because you want to meet up it doesn't mean that he should automatically feel the same way.
For all you know he might have spent the last ten years inside and not want to explain about that to anyone who doesn't need to know.
For all you know he might have spent the last ten years inside and not want to explain about that to anyone who doesn't need to know.
roadrash
cycle chatterer
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in response to the school reunion thing, i went to a high school reunion 20 years after leaving only to find out one of the girls in my class was my step sister ...... beat that 
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Accy cyclist
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He hasn't sent a text message since his "No not yet" at 06.39 this morning, which was in reply to my "Anywhere near retiring" question. This to me sounds like he's not too enthusiastic about a group meet up. Maybe I should leave the past in the past...or summat like that.
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Accy cyclist
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Talking to another friend about it today he asked why I was bothering, adding "He's always been a bit of a weirdo. I wouldn't bother if I were you".
- Location
- Somewhere wet & hilly in NW England.
Let it go. 
