Friend who disappeared has been found, but he doesn't seem too keen on meeting up

[Accy cyclist]

If you think that Darwen is a step down from Accrington then Burnley is another two steps down. 😂

Er and Bolton is better?

 

[Accy cyclist]

I 'know' more people here on CC than I know from my school days! How sad is that!

Almost as sad as me knowing more 'friends' in the cemetery than ones still alive!

 

[yello]

^^^ well, not funny really I suppose but it tickled me!

 

[Kingfisher101]

You need to leave it. Sending multiple texts and getting one word answers back show that's hes not bothered really/or hasn't got time. Either way you need to back right off. A lot of people move on and don't want to be having meet ups with friends from the past. You just have to respect that really.

 

[Once a Wheeler]

In my experience genuine friends who are rediscovered do meet up; but always to talk about the present even if that is illustrated by allusions to shared history. Of the others who share some history, some do not relate to it any more and have no urge to continue the relationship; and a small minority cling to their history so strongly that they effectively have no present. The latter group feel sad to me and I do not encourage their company, the first group are part of life's riches.

 

[Drago]

Its probably for the best, Accy. Ive heard that not only does this fellow mix checks and stripes, but he also wears blue and green without a colour in between.

 

[steveindenmark]

People move on and are happy to leave the past in the past.

I would leave it alone now.

 

[Accy cyclist]

I've just received a message from him.

"When you thinking of meeting up"?

It looks like me not being too pushy has made him show a bit more enthusiasm.

 

[yello]

It looks like me not being too pushy has made him show a bit more enthusiasm.

Yep, you've piqued his curiosity. Doesn't mean he'll turn up though, he could just being contrary and playing hard to get! So a nonchalant reply might reel him in a little further.

 

[Accy cyclist]

Another message now, saying he's away for the next couple of weeks, but is 'up for a night out'!

Maybe he's had time to think about it and thinks it's a good idea.

 

[Accy cyclist]

Yep, you've piqued his curiosity. Doesn't mean he'll turn up though, he could just being contrary and playing hard to get! So a nonchalant reply might reel him in a little further.

Yes, nothing pushy should do. Maybe even show a bit of 'couldn't care less' as well?🤔

 

[vickster]

I've just received a message from him.

"When you thinking of meeting up"?

It looks like me not being too pushy has made him show a bit more enthusiasm.

Just say it’d be really nice to meet, when and where would suit

 

[All uphill]

Yes, nothing pushy should do. Maybe even show a bit of 'couldn't care less' as well?🤔

Up to you, but I'd not play games.

Then again I'm not in touch with anyone from schooldays, so what do I know?

 

[Brandane]

My thoughts are he's not that bothered about meeting up.

My thoughts are he has just remembered who you are!

 

[Brandane]

Just say it’d be really nice to meet, when and where would suit

Preferably somewhere far away from shop windows, phone boxes, and car windscreens .