If you could move anywhere in UK where would you move too?

[Pblakeney]

Still dreaming of Speyside.

We spent a long weekend in Ballater. Easy to see why the royals live nearby. Seems to have a microclimate sheltered by the Cairngorms.

 

[Mad Doug Biker]

@a

People told me that a couple of times: that "Leaving is hiding" and that the problem was me, not the situation, so the problem would "follow" me.

Turns out they were wrong. On occasion the people telling me this, were the problem: as soon as I was away from them, things improved. On another occasion the very place itself was the issue: it turns out I don't get on well with cities. Fortunately I have skills in demand in rural Germany so I could do something about that. It also turned out that in some cases, the people claiming I was the problem were trying to hide their own bullying or manipulative behaviour by pushing the blame for the symptoms onto me.

I'm not saying that I had (or have) no issues to deal with, but it's remarkable how much easier it is to deal with underlying problems once other, more obvious stress factors are removed.

I mean the issues in your head.

 

[Pblakeney]

No matter where you are, your problems will follow.

You can run, but you cannot hide, so moving will not really change anything.

True. Unless you have specific issues per Andy.
I’ve travelled around a lot for work and found that no matter where you are, no matter how lively/quiet, no matter how pretty; routine is still routine.

 

[Andy in Germany]

@a


I mean the issues in your head.

That's what I meant in the final paragraph: getting rid of the surface issues can provide space to deal with other deeper factors; there's a reason a lot of intervention therapy involves moving people out of their immediate situation.

 

[Gillstay]

Buckingham Palace, would be nice once its sorted of course and as long as his brother doesn't nip round looking for hand outs.

 

[Jameshow]

Buckingham Palace, would be nice once its sorted of course and as long as his brother doesn't nip round looking for hand outs.

Get to the back of the queue!! 🤣

 

[Flick of the Elbow]

We spent a long weekend in Ballater. Easy to see why the royals live nearby. Seems to have a microclimate sheltered by the Cairngorms.

That’s why Victoria and Albert bought Balmoral, they were advised by the eminent geographers of the day on which part of Scotland had the best climate.

 

[Ming the Merciless]

Buckingham Palace, would be nice once its sorted of course and as long as his brother doesn't nip round looking for hand outs.

But which bedroom to use?

 

[VinSumRox]

But which bedroom to use?

Different one every night.

 

[VinSumRox]

Quite happy staying where we are.

 

[Ming the Merciless]

Different one every night.

Plus 78 bathrooms to choose from

 

[Jameshow]

People told me that a couple of times: that "Leaving is hiding" and that the problem was me, not the situation, so the problem would "follow" me.

Turns out they were wrong. On occasion the people telling me this, were the problem: as soon as I was away from them, things improved. On another occasion the very place itself was the issue: it turns out I don't get on well with cities. Fortunately I have skills in demand in rural Germany so I could do something about that. It also turned out that in some cases, the people claiming I was the problem were trying to hide their own bullying or manipulative behaviour by pushing the blame for the symptoms onto me.

I'm not saying that I had (or have) no issues to deal with, but it's remarkable how much easier it is to deal with underlying problems once other, more obvious stress factors are removed.

I agree sometimes people do show bullying or belittling behaviour which often stems from insecurity (out of work) or in alliance to malevolent freinds allied to my ex.

 

[Ming the Merciless]

Based on predicted climate in Great Britain and Europe within 20 years, probably west coast of Ireland.

 

[Ming the Merciless]

People told me that a couple of times: that "Leaving is hiding" and that the problem was me, not the situation, so the problem would "follow" me.

Just an example of them continuing to bully and demean you.

 

[N0bodyOfTheGoat]

Having just come back from a week in Shanklin on IOW, first time there in ~20 years, anywhere around there...
Less road traffic
Loads off offroad cycling trails
Decent mix of hills/flat for cyling
Cooler summer temps than mainland Hampshire
Still very laid back and slow feel to life compared to home
etc.