Just got a steep warning.

[deptfordmarmoset]

I considered this once, then realised I had two pairs of cycling shoes, a pair of running shoes, three pairs of work shoes, a pair of hiking boots, a pair of sandals, some wellies, a pair of gardening shoes, a pair of squash shoes...

You're therefore entitled to 2 cycling bikes, a running bike, 3 work bikes, a hikey bike, 2 hippy bikes, a wet weather bike, a peony pootler and a very tidy folding bike.

 

[AuroraSaab]

The shoe analogy isn't really fair. Also, many women, like me, are not interested in shoes, handbags etc. You really do need several pairs of shoes for different occasions, whereas you don't really 'need' 9 bikes. And they take up a lot more room than another pair of shoes.

Having said that, if you can afford it without having to cut back on mutually shared stuff (like food or holidays), and a new bike would give you pleasure beyond the immediate rush of buying, and if another bike doesn't impinge on your shared space, then buy it. My OH wouldn't dream of telling me not to buy stuff, but I would certainly think about how another purchase of a large, space taking, or expensive, item would impinge on him. If anything though, it's me who encourages him to spend on things that I know he will enjoy but would he would think are a bit extravagant - hence the arrival of a new hybrid bike yesterday, and a £200 coffee maker, and yet another guitar, last year.

 

[roadrash]

A wise man once said....its easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission..

 

[jay clock]

I considered this once, then realised I had two pairs of cycling shoes, a pair of running shoes, three pairs of work shoes, a pair of hiking boots, a pair of sandals, some wellies, a pair of gardening shoes, a pair of squash shoes...

mmmm I have got
Three pairs of road shoes
Winter MTB boots
Two pairs of regular MTB shoes
Two pairs of spd sandals
Old pair of touring shoes

So that is just 9!

 

[nickyboy]

I've never understood this bravado about "it's your money", "buy another with the same paint job" etc etc. Seems people have quite different relationships with their other halves than I do.

We have always had a joint account and everything is paid out of this and everything is paid into this. We always check with each other if we want to spend a "significant" amount. And a bike would be significant

 

[BoldonLad]

I am amazed at the readiness of people to advise on other people's relationships.

In my experience, looking after your own relationship is difficult enough!

For the record, we (myself and Mrs Boldonlad) operate a four bank account system:

1. Mrs Boldonlad, to spend or not as she wishes
2. Mine, to send or not, as I wish, but, mostly, spent on Mrs Boldonlad (well, that is what I tell her)
3. Bills Account, to which we contribute to in proportion to our individual Income, and, as its name suggests, pays all bills etc
4. Holiday Account, to which we contribute equally, and, which pays for "holidays".

We would usually discuss any major (say more than £100) expenditure, but, would not prevent the other partner from indulging whatever whim, they had.

It has worked for 30+ years

 

[SkipdiverJohn]

I reckon you've got about the most sensible arrangement possible. The bills get paid, each person gets to spend their own money, and there aren't any rows about who spends too much or what they spend it on.

 

[Julia9054]

Some blokes just enjoy perpetuating the "I'm just a naughty schoolboy married to a version of my mother" stereotype.
Personally, I find it rather tiresome. I'm sure they don't really allow another adult human being to act like they are their parent so why do they think it is amusing to pretend that they do

 

[BoldonLad]

I reckon you've got about the most sensible arrangement possible. The bills get paid, each person gets to spend their own money, and there aren't any rows about who spends too much or what they spend it on.

Yes, well, we both had "partner disasters" before we met, so, we had learned a lesson or two

 

[SkipdiverJohn]

I know plenty of people with previous "partner disasters" who fail to learn their lesson and go on to repeat the same mistake, with the same entirely predictable outcome, a second or third time.....

 

[roadrash]

I don't have MY money and mrs roadrash doesn't have HER money, together we have our money, it has been this way 30 odd years and not once has it ever been a problem, works for us but that doesn't mean it would work for everybody.

 

[12boy]

My wife loves food... cooking it, finding fresh and tasty veg, sending pictures of tasty meals, acquiring delicious things to prepare it with and eating it too. She cooks for others to express love and affection and at this point in our lives it is our biggest expense. I enjoy bikes and I can have as many as I can find room for, as well as parts and tools with her blessing. Like her, in a way, I enjoy finding and refurbishing bikes for people that matter to me. I guess I get the better deal because I eat very well and ride bikes I really enjoy.

 

[screenman]

ColinJ, I would never buy something for myself if it made my wife unhappy, Pam is far and away more important than a few lumps of metal and rubber. I imagine most happy relationships work much the same way.

 

[biggs682]

I've got 10

SWMBO doesn't bother asking any more

I am keeping quiet on how many i have but as @DCLane says my partner doesn't ask as long as she can get to the freezer in garage

 

[screenman]

I am keeping quiet on how many i have but as @DCLane says my partner doesn't ask as long as she can get to the freezer in garage

I would never allow a freezer in the garage, there are limits.