Morals, affairs and celibacy...

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col

Legendary Member
buy him a blow up doll :-0
Or she could er never mind;)
 

Pat "5mph"

A kilogrammicaly challenged woman
Moderator
Location
Glasgow
I suggested that they talk about it as adults who cared about each other.

If I loved a woman but had zero sex drive and it became clear that the situation wasn't going to change and my partner were highly frustrated, I wouldn't just say "Tough, live with it!"

I would either try to deal with the problem of my lack of interest, or consider plan B - that she gets the anonymous hunk once-a-month deal. It would be difficult to handle, but perhaps welcoming her home afterwards, snuggling up with her and saying "Come on love, I know you are dying to tell me all about it!" would be better than infidelity, divorce or resentful frustration? :whistle:
Colin, you're a saint :angel:, but girls love bad :evil: boys, don't you know? :blush:
Anyway, I say Francesca's way would solve the problem, if I was his wife I would certainly do it to him myself!
 

Maz

Guru
Potassium bromide. Sorted.
Sodium chloride. Salted.
 

dellzeqq

pre-talced and mighty
Location
SW2
at the risk of coming over all Virginia Ironside........it's the things he hasn't told you that are the most interesting.

First - having three kids and going through the menopause may or may not be the reason for her lack of interest in him. Perhaps he's a really lousy fark. Perhaps she doesn't fancy him any more, or perhaps they simply don't have strong feelings for each other.

And, as others have said, why's he talking to Rich? For validation?

If somebody asked me the same question I'd say that he's answerable to himself (presuming that he doesn't get caught out) but that he needs to think about what might go wrong - and, without getting too dramatic about it, a lot could go wrong.

And I'd suggest that he needs to come up with a better starting point, because the story as it stands is some kind of vapid extract from an agony column in the Sun. Why hasn't he talked his marriage through with his wife - is it because he's embarrassed, because he's worried that he might hear something he doesn't want to hear (see asterisks above), or is it that he doesn't want to cause hurt or embarrassment? Is the umpteen years of marriage so meaningless that he's prepared to simply slide (metaphorically) out of the back door - and, if that's the case, then the expectations he has for himself are pretty dismal.

All in all, he's got things to say and decisions to make. If he wimps out then he's laying down a marker for the rest of his life.
 

Pat "5mph"

A kilogrammicaly challenged woman
Moderator
Location
Glasgow
We're not French, you know!
d.
Years ago, in Italy, where I was brought up, there was an hilarious movie called "no sex we are british" :laugh:
Jokes apart, guys and girls, you can't have your cake and eat it (morally speaking) I think most women would agree to this. And I dare say that when the sex drive disappears in a woman, unless there is a health reason (it's not the menopause!) then ........ it is the guy's fault :tongue:
More attention to the woman he has got, never mind looking to dip his w****y in new waters. :rose:
 

theclaud

Openly Marxist
Location
Swansea
Tell him to go for it!

Then all he needs to do is sit on his secret in a pit of seething resentment of an unfulfilled marriage for another 10 years.... Eventually he will hate every move she makes, the snoring, the noisy eating, that 'thing' she does with her hair, whilst whistfully thinking "what if"...

Given another 5 years his wife will eventually get sick of his non committal aloofishness and kick him out...

He can then go back to said mistress to find out, really, the grass isnt in fact any greener and all along she was some dwarfish munter, thus living the rest of his days out in lonely isolation.

Simples!

I'm just glad that you're not bitter, Smeglington.
 
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