Mundane News

[TVC]

Our street looks lovely.It's snowing .Last three hours or so,really fat flakes.

Looks like I did right getting out of Leeds yesterday, just drizzle here.

 

[Fab Foodie]

How’s it going @Speicher ?
Any updates?

 

[Speicher]

Thank you everyone for your kind words.

My brother will be visiting her this weekend.

 

[TVC]

Someone the prof hangs about with these days

I see he's so knackered he walks with a stick these days

 

[TVC]

@ianrauk we're off to Birmingham to see a Blue Show tomorrow, It would never occur to me to give it a go if it wasn't for your avatar.

 

[ianrauk]

@ianrauk we're off to Birmingham to see a Blue Show tomorrow, It would never occur to me to give it a go if it wasn't for your avatar.

Enjoy

 

[potsy]

Back in the 70s that meant something different

I think it still is the 70's in Brum

 

[deptfordmarmoset]

@Speicher . My sympathies. I've just spent a few days with my mother and this caring business is exhausting work.

In other news, someone with landfill for brains has filled up my bin while I was away. I'm pretty certain I know which cretin did it but I'm not going through their waste to get proof....

 

[potsy]

@Speicher . My sympathies. I've just spent a few days with my mother and this caring business is exhausting work.

In other news, someone with landfill for brains has filled up my bin while I was away. I'm pretty certain I know which cretin did it but I'm not going through their waste to get proof....

Dump it all in their garden after dark?

 

[potsy]

It's snowing here

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That's not Manchester...

 

[Speicher]

@Speicher . My sympathies. I've just spent a few days with my mother and this caring business is exhausting work.

She has been very frail and needing lots of help for fifteen years now. Sadly she does not recognise that there is only so much I can do. She has demanded that I do more and more. She has also told me that my two Brother's are unable to help, and gave me a list of reasons why. I found out some time ago, that she had not even asked them to help. She asks me for advice, and then does something completely different, then argues with me and tells me I do not know what I am talking about.

Over the past fifteen years I have gone well over the "call of duty" and well beyond that, to the detriment of my own mental and physical health. Now I now where my boundaries are. I held Power of Attorney for her, but passed that responsibility to the Brother who is about two years older than me.

The Brother who is visiting her this weekend has health problems of his own. I cannot remember the last time he saw her, probably three years ago.

 

[Deleted member 1258]

She has been very frail and needing lots of help for fifteen years now. Sadly she does not recognise that there is only so much I can do. She has demanded that I do more and more. She has also told me that my two Brother's are unable to help, and gave me a list of reasons why. I found out some time ago, that she had not even asked them to help. She asks me for advice, and then does something completely different, then argues with me and tells me I do not know what I am talking about.

Over the past fifteen years I have gone well over the "call of duty" and well beyond that, to the detriment of my own mental and physical health. Now I now where my boundaries are. I held Power of Attorney for her, but passed that responsibility to the Brother who is about two years older than me.

The Brother who is visiting her this weekend has health problems of his own. I cannot remember the last time he saw her, probably three years ago.

 

[deptfordmarmoset]

She has been very frail and needing lots of help for fifteen years now. Sadly she does not recognise that there is only so much I can do. She has demanded that I do more and more. She has also told me that my two Brother's are unable to help, and gave me a list of reasons why. I found out some time ago, that she had not even asked them to help. She asks me for advice, and then does something completely different, then argues with me and tells me I do not know what I am talking about.

Over the past fifteen years I have gone well over the "call of duty" and well beyond that, to the detriment of my own mental and physical health. Now I now where my boundaries are. I held Power of Attorney for her, but passed that responsibility to the Brother who is about two years older than me.

The Brother who is visiting her this weekend has health problems of his own. I cannot remember the last time he saw her, probably three years ago.

That bit about asking for advice and then doing something completely different is ringing very loud bells for me...even though mine's not as cantankerous as yours, merely advanced level contrary.

 

[Speicher]

When my father died (in 2001) my mother put excessive pressure on me to help her, and do everything while my two brothers were not involved at all. Furthermore, when she thought I was sad (?) that my father had died, she gave me more things that "had to be done that minute or yesterday" When that strategy, surprise surprise, did not work, she piled even more on my plate.

I know that her generation would usually think "keep busy" but surely not "keep overloading someone until they are mentally and physically exhausted".

While my brother is there this weekend, depending on the weather (he lives in Newcastle upon Tyne), I am staying well clear. He has not spoken to me for about three years, while I have made numerous attempts at building bridges, without success.

I know that peeps on here cannot do anything to help, but knowing that others have been through a similar scenario does help a bit.

 

[Speicher]

That bit about asking for advice and then doing something completely different is ringing very loud bells for me...even though mine's not as cantankerous as yours, merely advanced level contrary.

The Cantankerousness of my Father, was the stuff of the worst possible nightmares.