She has been very frail and needing lots of help for fifteen years now. Sadly she does not recognise that there is only so much I can do. She has demanded that I do more and more. She has also told me that my two Brother's are unable to help, and gave me a list of reasons why. I found out some time ago, that she had not even asked them to help. She asks me for advice, and then does something completely different, then argues with me and tells me I do not know what I am talking about.
Over the past fifteen years I have gone well over the "call of duty" and well beyond that, to the detriment of my own mental and physical health. Now I now where my boundaries are. I held Power of Attorney for her, but passed that responsibility to the Brother who is about two years older than me.
The Brother who is visiting her this weekend has health problems of his own. I cannot remember the last time he saw her, probably three years ago.