Not sure what to do.

[mjr]

I havent been able to do any long distances on a bike for a while as she always wants to go out with me help any advice would be good advice at this point

Why do you want to do long distances? It sounds like you need to figure out why you ride and that will probably tell you what advice to follow or what a better solution is.

 

[Smokin Joe]

Why do you want to do long distances? It sounds like you need to figure out why you ride and that will probably tell you what advice to follow or what a better solution is.

 

[ColinJ]

I have a friend who is not really a cyclist, but who fancies a cycling holiday with me. I told her that I would be happy to spend most of each day meandering about at her pace but I would probably fancy going out for an extra hour or two by myself later on. I think that would be a reasonable compromise.

 

[mjr]

 

[xxDarkRiderxx]

I am in a similar situation as my wife has started to join me and I have spent the last few days sabotaging her wheel and sorting out seat posts etc. She started moaning about hills at first but the look of amazement as she has started to improve over the last few weeks is actually exciting for me. I actually like riding with her as in incourages me not to ride to fast plus I get out with the club on a Sunday.

I agree with others who have said just let her know how you feel and or after rides do some extra miles. Ensure that she has dinner or tea ready for you when you return.

 

[Smokin Joe]

Why do you want to do long distances?

Eh?

 

[Davos87]

Try to be more sensitive to her needs. Offer her support and encouragement. Make helpful suggestions in order to assist her upping the miles. For example ask her to do just 10 miles a day for a fortnight. With luck and determination by the end of this period she should be 140 miles away and then you can go out on your own.

 

[mjr]

Eh?

Not as in "that's silly" but as in "what's the motivation for you and so, the most important aspect to preserve?"

 

[SpokeyDokey]

My missus comes with me often, and i quite enjoy the rest it gives me although I do feel guilty when I see how much effort it's costing her. I enjoy riding by myself and with her evenly but for different reasons. Just explain to her that you do need to cycle alone every now and then. Or as @helston90 said plot a route where you can drop her off at her limit.

I've always found that far from restful....

 

[SpokeyDokey]

Try to be more sensitive to her needs. Offer her support and encouragement. Make helpful suggestions in order to assist her upping the miles. For example ask her to do just 10 miles a day for a fortnight. With luck and determination by the end of this period she should be 140 miles away and then you can go out on your own.

Four sentences in I was thinking 'what a load of rollocks' and then the 5th came along.

 

[ChrisV]

... she can then make a start with cooking lunch whilst you finish off?

What happened to romance?

 

[Pat "5mph"]

You both join a local club, then she starts with the slower group, while you go out with the faster. She may progress, she may not, but you will both enjoy your rides, make new friends, plus will have lots to talk about after the event.
Of course, you need to make a diplomatic suggestion, not give the impression you want rid of her.

 

[vickster]

She may also meet a new bloke in the group more sensitive to her cycling abilities and feelings

 

[mustang1]

Compromise is for wussies.

When she stops to smell the roses, do a few hill repeats.

Actually that's a silly idea. I don't know what to suggest to you.

 

[Smurfy]

For years I have cycled alone miles on the road and enjoyed it.
Recently had a new partner who has shown an interest in bikes.
Every weekend we or I have spare she wants to go out with me.
While this no problem, I end up looking over my shoulder every five minutes, fixing her bike etc.

As she is still quite new to cycling she finds it difficult on long distances.
I havent been able to do any long distances on a bike for a while as she always wants to go out with me help any advice would be good advice at this point

Ride a fixed-wheel bike, it will give you a bigger workout for the same distance and pace