Not sure what to do.

[markharry66]

Why do I enjoy long distances? Like most people on here I addicted to cycling.
not her fault but get fed with keep stopping and cross road at round abouts.

 

[Arjimlad]

Can you develop the notion of yourself going on a "training ride" rather than the sociable rides which you do with her ladyship ?

 

[cd365]

Dump her.

This made me laugh out loud

 

[Tim Hall]

Revel in the warm feeling that she wants to share what you do.

 

[grellboy]

Introduce her to this forum (having first changed your user name to something romantic like "markharry loves....inserthernamehere" for extra brown noser points) and then let her stumble across this thread and then say something like "Oh, yes, he does have an interesting dilemma, what would you suggest darling?" Then she will give you the answer to your problem without even knowing that she is the problem lol!

 

[mcshroom]

Sounds like you need a mixture of rides at your pace and at hers. On the rides with here, I would advise you ride behind rather than in front. Then she gets to set the pace, you don't need to keep looking over your shoulder, and of course you get a nice view

 

[Milkfloat]

OP - sounds like you need a new bike - one of these with the nobbliest widest tyres you can find should slow you down but require huge amounts of effort should work.

 

[Gasman]

Introduce her to Rule 5 and Rule 10.

 

[Saluki]

Can you ride with her, every other ride? I don't ride with Hubster the whole time as I need some 'me' time and I like to ride at my pace rather than his, which is only a bit slower, but it is slower. Also, I don't need a breather as often as he does.
Can you suggest riding with her on a Saturday and then clearing off for a faster ride, at your pace, alone on the Sunday (or whatever other days you pick). If you explain that you have fitness level to maintain and that you need to put the work in, I'm sure she will understand.

 

[betty swollocks]

Cycle behind her and enjoy the view.

 

[SpokeyDokey]

For years I have cycled alone miles on the road and enjoyed it.
Recently had a new partner who has shown an interest in bikes.
Every weekend we or I have spare she wants to go out with me.
While this no problem, I end up looking over my shoulder every five minutes, fixing her bike etc.

As she is still quite new to cycling she finds it difficult on long distances.
I havent been able to do any long distances on a bike for a while as she always wants to go out with me help any advice would be good advice at this point

Why not just be honest with her. Some rides you are happy to do together and some you aren't. On the ones that you are, just pootle along and smile a lot.

There's no reason on Earth for people in relationships to have to do everything together.

 

[Arjimlad]

Try to be more sensitive to her needs. Offer her support and encouragement. Make helpful suggestions in order to assist her upping the miles. For example ask her to do just 10 miles a day for a fortnight. With luck and determination by the end of this period she should be 140 miles away and then you can go out on your own.

I'm still laughing at this. Post of the year? Chapeau!

 

[Karlt]

OP - sounds like you need a new bike - one of these with the nobbliest widest tyres you can find should slow you down but require huge amounts of effort should work.

Aye. Buy the cheapest, nastiest full-bounce £75 Dunlop from Sports Direct. She can catch up with you whilst you're reindexing the gearing for the fortieth time that ride and whilst you creep downhill at 8mph terrified to let go of the brakes because you know they'll bend right to the bars before you slow down if you let it go any faster, And of course when you're struggling up a 3% hill at 6mph because the bike is just so heavy and horrid and nasty and the brakes are rubbing again.

 

[DanZac]

As others have already said when i go out with the mrs we plan a route that goes near home at the distance she feels happy with, I pootle round with her giving all the encouragement and company she wants at her pace. As we pass home again she goes for a shower and makes lunch whilst I knock out another fast hour or two.
I'm on a winner each way, not only do I get the bonus points for going out with her and encouraging her with her fitness but I get lunch made ready for when I get in.

 

[MontyVeda]

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There's no reason on Earth for people in relationships to have to do everything together.

try telling that to my ex!