The age gap.

[vernon]

A colleague of mine has a wife twelve years younger than him and who earns £25k per year more than he does. He claims that he's never cooked, put petrol in his car, done the laundry, allowed her to book foreign family holidays, or paid more than £15 per head for a restaurant meal. He claims that they are very happily married.

I suspect that her views are not congruent with his.

He's a miserable sod at work.

 

[Jimidh]

I'm 50 my wife is 42 - I don't think the age difference matters once you get out of your teens. I met her when she was 23 and I was 31 - would have been different I'd met when I was 21!!!

 

[MontyVeda]

about 30 years ago, my 20ish year old cousin married a bloke in his 40s... we all thought WTF. She's now pushing 50 and he's in his early 70s and they seem pretty solid. I guess the age gap is irrelevant where soul mates are concerned.

 

[sidevalve]

That was the thing, when my little brother and I were 8 and 6 my dad was 50 - and 50 in the 1970s was a bit different to 50 now (like wot I is). There was no football in the park and dad games because he had already had his first heart attack.

Dad and son games are a relative thing - when I was six my dad was working 6 1/2 days a week to feed us. There was no feeling of 'missing out'. This idyllic 'childhood' thing is a modern invention.
As for the OP I must remember the sheer vitriol exuded on the 'students accepting sugar daddies' thread - seems now age doesn't matter . Seems maybe those young women [university students] were all naive airheads exploited by the ne'er do well rich men [ I mean really ?]
However TBH a prob could crop up later in life when one partner may end up mostly as a geriatric nurse if the age gap is very wide.
Otherwise it don't matter a jot

 

[vernon]

However TBH a prob could crop up later in life when one partner may end up mostly as a geriatric nurse if the age gap is very wide.
Otherwise it don't matter a jot

Lots of partners of equal ages end up as 'geriatric nurses' when one of them suffers catastrophic physical/brain injuries or degenerative diseases and lack of age difference matters not a jot

 

[wheresthetorch]

My father was 19 years older than my mother. It was quite cool growing up in the 70s and 80s, having a dad who had fought in the 2nd world war.

The downside was him dying when I was only 29 (he was 81).

My wife is 11 years younger than me, too!

 

[CopperBrompton]

Is it possible for the big an age gap between man and wife to be too big?

"Over 20 years" is certainly a huge age-gap, but ultimately only two people have to be happy with any aspect of a relationship, including relative ages. As others have said, the biggest issue I can see is when one is using a zimmer-frame while the other is still out mountain-biking ...

 

[vernon]

"Over 20 years" is certainly a huge age-gap, but ultimately only two people have to be happy with any aspect of a relationship, including relative ages. As others have said, the biggest issue I can see is might be when if one is using a zimmer-frame while the other is still out mountain-biking ...

FTFY

 

[TVC]

Dad and son games are a relative thing - when I was six my dad was working 6 1/2 days a week to feed us. There was no feeling of 'missing out'. This idyllic 'childhood' thing is a modern invention.
As for the OP I must remember the sheer vitriol exuded on the 'students accepting sugar daddies' thread - seems now age doesn't matter . Seems maybe those young women [university students] were all naive airheads exploited by the ne'er do well rich men [ I mean really ?]
However TBH a prob could crop up later in life when one partner may end up mostly as a geriatric nurse if the age gap is very wide.
Otherwise it don't matter a jot

At the time I didn't feel that I was being short changed, there was plenty of airfix kit and meccano shared activity, and he was a very good father. It's just looking back I now notice that he wasn't doing the physical play and running around that other kids' dads were.

 

[Richard A Thackeray]

Not much, my wife is 3 years younger, we met (via mutual friends), when she was 17, & still in 6th form!
That was in 1986, & we married in 1998
(I was 50 last year)

 

[Crackle]

A few things have got me thinking recently. There's over 20 years between Moon Bunny and me, the twins are younger than some of my school friends' grandchildren! Not that I am bothered personally, nor is the rabbit, but the looks we get off some people who seem to assume we're father and daughter well! Is it possible for the big an age gap between man and wife to be too big?

If Moon Bunny's not complaining, I'd keep schtum.

 

[mark st1]

I reckon that to be the first time I have seen a photo of Hugh Heffner wearing clothes.

I'd be deleting your search history.

 

[Vapin' Joe]

That was the thing, when my little brother and I were 8 and 6 my dad was 50 - and 50 in the 1970s was a bit different to 50 now (like wot I is). There was no football in the park and dad games because he had already had his first heart attack.

That's the same as me, my dad was 43 when I was born (The eldest of two) and in the 1960s the generation gap between someone born before the first world and a teenager was enormous. Back then people in their forties were thirty years older in attitude than those of today.

 

[gavgav]

The happiest marriages of friends that I know all seem to be ones with age gaps! 15,12 & 8 to be precise

 

[cuberider]

Over 20 yrs difference here also, but we work well together so I dont think about it much. I just hope I live to a good age.