The bum question and honesty

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ayceejay

Guru
Location
Rural Quebec
Sure enough my wife asked me the bum question, you know "Do you think I have a big bum?" there are variations like "Does my bum look big in this?" for instance. Of course I answered "No dear" which in my experience is always the best/only answer. To be honest I never give it a lot of thought because this way trouble lurks. I just feign consideration with a slight pause.
Am I being dishonest or just protecting my best interest - or?
 
You are protecting her interest as well i.e. her wellbeing, mental health etc.
 

ScotiaLass

Guru
Location
Middle Earth
It perhaps says a lot that my husband says my bum is my best feature! :laugh:
As my dear mum used to say "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all".
I take this to mean that if you say something to make someone feel good about themselves, then that's perfectly acceptable, whether it's a little white lie or not :smile:
 

Turbo Rider

Just can't reMember
She might want to have a big bum...in which case, you may have just caused harm...it's a dangerous path to assume though...best solution...ask why she wants to know or if she'd like one...then accentuate the positives in whichever direction you need to...it's all relative...
 
I now have the perfect reply to it now "It's not big enough, you'd need to eat more pies to get it noticed in Brazil"
Just seems a cultural thing that big bums are desirable in Brazil.
 

surfdude

Veteran
Location
cornwall
you did the right thing . not only did you protect your best interest you also protected your testicles .

every time my wife asked this question i just say lets go up to bedroom and i will prove how perfect and sexy your bum and you are :ohmy:. she has not asked for years . ^_^
 

Paulus

Started young, and still going.
Location
Barnet,
A loaded question if ever there was one. As a husband of many years standing, there is no right answer. If you say no, the lady in question will of already made her mind up, and disagree . If you say yes it it enormous, that dress does not suit you, you are doomed. Be brave, and run away.:bicycle:
 
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