Slightly off the topic, but
When I was much younger than I am now, I used to think that "when I am older, I will be able to do, within reason, just as I wish to do".
This appears not to be the case. People seem to expect me to do things that they want to do, and cannot accept that there are things that I do not want to do, and other things that I do want to do. They (mostly relatives) seem to be very afraid of someone "doing their own thing".
For instance, I am
ssshh don't tell everyone, going to the theatre next Friday, on my own.
I do not know anyone else who wants to see this person in concert (Dennis Le Corriere, from Dr Hook, if you must know.)
Added to which that if I used to like or not like something, then I am supposed to still like it, or not like it, and not to have changed my opinion.
If you have this, or a similar problem, you will know what I am talking about. If you don't, well perhaps you are just too young.