[QUOTE 5128781, member: 9609"]I'm in no doubt nurture plays a big part, but is it bigger than nature; Where would you put the Nurture / Nature balance ?
I would easily put it at 80/20 in favour of Nature. we can certainly be influenced but we are who we are no matter what.[/QUOTE]
I think testosterone and chromosones and dangly bits and gonads are remarkably convenient excuses for failing to address systemic inequalities and discrimination on the basis of gender and reassuringly supportive of the status quo.
And I'll suggest once more, just in case, looking at the previously linked stuff from that documentary about the way we treat babies differently depending on what gender we
perceive them to be, and maybe seeing if you can find the documentary series somewhere because it was remarkably accessible and very interesting about all sorts of stuff to do with child development and gender.
You can prefer to believe it is down to the content of people's underpants - you are of course entitled to your opinion. But we very definitely treat children very
very differently (even when we think we don't - see the aforementioned clip) according to gender and it starts when they are tiny. Babes-in-arms.
In a matter of months, the teacher/school/documentary makers were able to actually and significantly affect outcomes by addressing that problem and treating children in a less gendered manner and more equally. Girls learned that they could be strong, improved their spatial awareness and discovered that attractiveness wasn't actually the most important thing about them. Boys discovered that empathy is rewarding and how to experience and express emotions other than anger. Parents who didn't think they were sexist reflected on some of the millions of tiny ways that we and the world discriminates on the basis of gender without even noticing. The teacher just about learned to stop calling the boys 'mate', 'pal', 'buddy' and the girls 'sweetheart' and 'lovely' - although it took a reward chart with stickers awarded to him by his pupils to just about break the habit. They saw a difference - in just a few weeks. So even in there is a degree of Nature in the mix, we need to sort out the Nurture and tedious arguing about percentages is in this case, frankly, a remarkably tedious sidetrack, IMO.
ETA - TMN to
@Julia9054 who was much less verbose than me!