Ah yes, numb lady bits. Tell me about it, been there, done that, felt the discomfort. Have to agree with
@Sharky - tilt the nose of the saddle down just a tad first and see where it takes you.
Saddles can be a right pain. Literally. But if you are looking for an alternative to what you have, a Charge Ladle would be a good bet, as it seems to suit most female bottoms. And at just shy of £30, it's well within budget. I have two - one on my road bike and one on my hybrid. They have a pressure relief channel in the saddle frame, so there's just that little bit of "give" under the top surface, just where it's needed.
Have a Selle SMP on the mountain bike build. That's actually got a cutout, but I haven't done enough mileage on it to decide whether I like the saddle or not.