That's not how I read the same posts.
Its easy to get on your high horses and join in the popular view when its not your life and money at stake.
The whole thing stinks IMHO .
Quite so.
It's not a matter of losing sight of right or wrong, it's a matter of recognising right or wrong is irrelevant to the task at hand which is solely to get the best possible result for the OP.
The OP has taken legal advice, and speaks in his last post of 'damage limitation' and being 'pragmatic', so it seems he has formed a similar view to mine.
Of course, the OP could take alternative legal advice which may, or may not, lead him in a different direction.
But he still remains strongly adverse to getting a criminal record.
The only sure fire way of avoiding one of those is not to step foot into the dock of the court.
Far too many people have gone gung-ho into proceedings, impelled by a crushing sense of injustice, only to regret it later when they get an entirely predictable bad result.
That may not be morally right and it may be a bad fault of the system, but the OP has no alternative but to be dealt with by the system as it currently operates.