Divorce

[steveindenmark]

You can see how easy it is to move forward. The more you tell the more support you will get.

Now find something to do in the evening. Join a gym go to Dance classes but find something to do. Dont prove anything to your wife but prove to yourself that you can get your life back.

Whatever happens dont turn to drink. You want to improve your life, not make it worse.

 

[Arrowfoot]

Update:
Eldest lad told, made her tell him in front of me. My parents told. Going to drive over and tell my other son this evening after the big match. Estate agents coming Tuesday to value house, docs tomorrow, just solicitors to sort

Brilliant - wish you the very best in the next leg of life's journey.

 

[Pale Rider]

I suppose you should be allowed one night of snivelling into a vodka bottle, you've done that, no need to repeat the experience.

The steps you are taking sound good to me, and well done for making a start quickly.

You are now in a battle.

Clear thinking, get a bit mad by all means, but above all make sure you at least get even, if not win.

Show the wretched woman what she has thrown away, a decent, strong guy who can pull on when he needs to.

She's just trashed her marriage and all she wants to do is go clubbing.

If it was me, I'd sling her out the house, although I accept there may be practical difficulties with that.

 

[annedonnelly]

I haven't read all of this thread, but I'm pleased that you now have told people and can get the support you need. Pretending that all is well was always going to make things more difficult for you. I'm sure it's going to be very difficult for you (the whole family) but at least now you can talk about it - your family and friends will want to help.

 

[Broughtonblue]

Update:
youngest lad told, took it quite bad and I wish I could be with him for support but he has his girlfriend with him so not that worried as I would be if he was on his own.
Told my brother and his partner who have a very successful business, they were so kind, as money will be tight they offered to pay for a gym membership for me so I can go with my bro, and also get me out the house, they also said if I have to sell the house further down the line, they will step in to save me being turfed out!!
They were only talking about buying another house to rent last week!

 

[summerdays]

That's really kind of your brother, practical and supporting!

 

[TVC]

Good news mate, it looks like the obsticles are being cleared and safety nets put in place. Obviously you have a long and difficult few months ahead, but I hope things don't look anywhere as bleak as they did 24 hours ago.
When ever you feel you need to vent then there are some of us here who will stop and listen.

 

[Broughtonblue]

Good news mate, it looks like the obsticles are being cleared and safety nets put in place. Obviously you have a long and difficult few months ahead, but I hope things don't look anywhere as bleak as they did 24 hours ago.
When ever you feel you need to vent then there are some of us here who will stop and listen.

I realise it's going to be difficult in the future, but the difference in my mind at the minute compared to 24hrs ago is immense. Also I know there are many more tears to shed, might even be later on tonight when I'm in a king size bed on my own, but onwards and upwards, might be a case of 2 steps forward 1 step back but if that's he case then so be it!

 

[Pale Rider]

they will step in to save me being turfed out!!
They were only talking about buying another house to rent last week!

There are a lot of worse ways to live than being solvent and renting from a known landlord.

 

[Saluki]

Your brother sounds like a total star. I'd be off to the gym with him in a trice, if I were you.

Your 20 year old son will get over the shock of his parents divorcing. Lots of people have divorced parents and seem to survive the experience. Don't be guilted. He's old enough to stand on his own two feet and his GF will provide support for him as well.

 

[John the Canuck]

it looks like your darkest hour has passed ------ well done

my wife and i divorced after 12years - no major problems - just married too young and gradually became 'best friends' rather than lovers

parted well - no kids - even got an invite to her wedding later......

met a wonderful woman after a few years --- eventually you WILL find your soul mate in your new life

 

[Broughtonblue]

Just a big thank you to all who replied to this thread last night, harsh and re assuring replies. You all got me through a very very bad night, it was good having someone to talk too. I hate to say this but I was googling some terrible sites, more interested than determined (I hope!)
What a wonderful community you are, short steps on a very long road!
THANK YOU

 

[ScotiaLass]

Update:
Eldest lad told, made her tell him in front of me. My parents told. Going to drive over and tell my other son this evening after the big match. Estate agents coming Tuesday to value house, docs tomorrow, just solicitors to sort

That's great to hear.
Stay strong!

 

[alecstilleyedye]

glad you're in a better place bb; shame the foxes couldn't help even more, unless you're also a fan of welsh rugby...

 

[Cuchilo]

I don't think I can add anything , just