Im acutely aware as more often than not a lone female rider,without the option to call for backup or help, Ive got to be self reliant to fix any issues I have, so I do pack enough tools/spares to fix the most common of problems, and for protection too, and more importantly can use them as well.
And yes, I know chances are if anyone does come past and sees me struggling to get a tyre off a rim, and this is where marathons arent always the great idea that they seem at the time, theyre 90% likely to be a bloke too, but most blokes certainly in a cycling context Ive met are ok, there are a few who are a bit odd, but I still think theyre mostly harmless overall, Ive never felt threatened in that specific way that youre all talking about.
Id still rather people called out and asked if I wanted help, they dont have to stop at all, but then its down to me to decide if I want their help, its not then about them making that choice for me.
Because there was this instance once where my chain snapped, and my foot slipped off the pedal (before I went clipless) and I raked the front chainring down the back of my calf, and so Im at the side of the road, bike upside down (yes I know) my leg is covered in blood, only a graze rather than a deep cut but there was alot of blood still, Ive got the bits to fix the chain (always carry spare quick links) and can do the job myself.
but Im very obviously hurt, in a bit of distress, which is making it all alot harder to fix, and I was passed by like at least 5 cyclists, all male, but not one of them even acknowledged my existence, let alone checked if I was alright. For sure Id have no doubt gone yep Im perfectly fine, had they asked, but it was just you know that human interaction that I wanted to be recognised, given that option to refuse, and not be ignored.