Is 50 quid ok for daughter's 21 prezzie?

[Accy cyclist]

It's our daughter's 21st birthday on Tuesday. I have no idea what she'd like. Well i do,but i'm on about something in my price range,not something costing thousands! I'm a bit short of the old pennies at them moment,having had to fork out for various household bills and not working these days. Do you think if i gave her £50 in a card it'd be ok? Some might say that not much thought goes into just giving money,but if i bought her what i'd class as a present it might be something she'd politely accept then think "what a load of rubbish this is". She's off to Barcelona with her boyfriend tomorrow,for 5 days,so it's not like she'll be here for the actual day. She didn't want a family and friend get together,which was good in a way because it saved me having to socialise with Mrs Accy's family,which would've been uncomfortable,seeing as we've separated in the last year. So do you think 50 quid(i'll make sure it's new notes from the ATM and not old screwed up ones)is ok,or should i give her more?

 

[byegad]

I'd suggest some sort of small keepsake, for £50 if that's what you can afford. I've known people buy their offspring a small car, but to me that's OTT!

 

[Accy cyclist]

Apologies for not replying to any answers or suggestions straight away,but i'm going on my exercise bike for an hour so bear with me.

 

[Accy cyclist]

I'd suggest some sort of small keepsake, for £50 if that's what you can afford. I've known people buy their offspring a small car, but to me that's OTT!

Well i could afford more,but i'd have to dip into my savings which are there for a rainy day. I don't touch that account,unless i really have to.

 

[Bromptonaut]

Given your circumstances I think £50 is incredibly generous, maybe over generous. Last guy I saw while CA advising on Thursday was living on JSA and had his leccy off so he could eat.

Byegad's solution is an excellent idea. We got my Mother a silver sixpence from the year of her birth - 1926 - for her 90th. Perhaps something like that that she could still treasure in 20years time.

 

[Lullabelle]

Giving money is a great idea, she could spend it on a memorable meal with her boyfriend or use it towards something she needs/would like.

 

[gbb]

Lullubelle s idea is as I'd have put it...tell them it's towards a special meal for them (or something similar).

£50 is absolutely fine IMO.

 

[User33236]

The value of any gift comes down to the personal circumstances of the giver. £50 is perfectly reasonable.

I bought both my kids a watch for their 21sts. Plenty of nice ones you can get for £50 and something she can keep.

 

[FishFright]

Another one here that thinks £50 is fine

 

[Accy cyclist]

Lullubelle s idea is as I'd have put it...tell them it's towards a special meal for them (or something similar).

£50 is absolutely fine IMO.

I thought about making it a bit different and giving her Euros instead of pounds,but as usual i'm always at the last minute. Someone said that Tesco do money exchanges. There's one near me but will they do money exchanges in the store i wonder?

 

[Accy cyclist]

I think,if remember rightly that i was given money and bottle of Aramis for my 21st. I kept the cards i received as a keepsake. I still have them.

 

[Drago]

Daughter #3 is 21 on 1st March. I've bought her a cherished number plate for her car, £600, and will give her 2 gees for a week in New York.

 

[winjim]

If she's off to Barcelona how about €50 instead? Then she can spend it while she's out there and it'll make the trip a bit nicer and give her something to remember.

 

[Accy cyclist]

Good idea. A lot of the big stores of bureau have change in them

The one near me is only a smallish store. I'm thinking i'll have to go to the bigger ones,either Accrington or Blackburn to get some Euros?

 

[Cuchilo]

Amethyst is her birthstone and thats lucky because its cheap why not get her an Amethyst pendant she can wear on a necklace or dip into your savings and buy the necklace as well .